What relationship advice would you give your daughter?

another of my parents gems was dont marry someone because you think you could live with him ,marry someone who you know you cant live without .

Don't let little niggles turn into big resentments - communicate and compromise before problems snowball.

Don't give up your own friends. Keep a separate life. Look after yourself first.

I like Khalil Gibran's poem On Marriage. Good advice.

Never go to bed on an argument. Loved your comment Minimoon - how true!

None, actually. DD decided very young that neither marriage nor motherhood were for her and anyway, it would be a very brave person who gave DD advice about anything.

Keep talking, lots of kindness and keep a small fund of your own. I do agree about not telling friends too much, you can be sure it will go at least one further.

If you always grit your teeth and bite your tongue you will starve to death. In other word say what is bothering you or making you unhappy.

Me too Minimoon... and paddyann. How true!
Give in to the unimportant things, stand firm on the things that you feel strongly about.

I've been with my husband 30+ years and I would share the following. Be kind to each other. Help each other be the best versions of themselves you can. Don't talk about your personal life to others (especially your sex life)! Only seek advice from those who can keep a secret and who have healthy relationships themselves. Have your own interests as well as interests together. Don't get into competition with your spouse (in any area). Be worthy of Trust & Loyalty. Be unselfish but don't be a doormat - make sure your needs are equally as important as his in the marriage. Work out how to talk through problems. make sure you have the same attitude to money - otherwise you will spend your time together resentful and angry. Think of yourselves as best friends and A Team - and work together towards joint goals. PS Before you get married, make sure you want the same things (i.e. don't do what a friend of mine did and not discuss having children, only to find out, on her honeymoon, that her husband didn't want them). Whew - I think I'll stop now!

Laugh whenever possible, talk often, and never go to bed on an argument.
Also - do not expect to change each other!

Earn your own money and stay in control of how it is spent. Never rely on another person, be self sufficient.
And I was happily married for 50 years and had three children.

Not marriage but life advice to my daughters was to make sure that you can support yourself and any children you may have, then you can never be trapped. Sorry not very romantic

60 years for us in the summer and the only advice I’d give is ....
you either hang on ...or you don’t...

Keep the rolling pin for rolling pastry and the frying pan for frying eggs.

always say thank show appriciation look after money .

Run like hell

“ Remember your husband is always right even when he’s wrong” What dreadful advice. Mine is when it goes wrong get out quickly don’t stay hoping it will get better. Wish I’d listened to my own advice. Still am on my own now thank God and it’s wonderful

Chewbacca, I love the recipe.

Least said, soonest mended. That doesn't mean be a doormat but if you must say something negative try to put it into a 'sandwich' if you will. Praise, mention the bad thing nicely, then a good thing.

Don't put anything in your mouth that you haven't boiled first...…..

but seriously I agree with PaddyAnn and others, love, respect, humour, compromise, etc

Treat your husband as you wish to be treated. Being kind, having fun, showing respect, being loving... all (usually) reflect back within a marriage, as they do within any relationship.

I agree with all of the above.
I have been married for almost 50 years and would offer these thoughts.

Listen and show respect to each other.
Give each other their own space and make time for each other.

In 1973 when I got married, a friend advised me to put away £1 a week, and to keep it a secret. I didn't do it. Every pound counted at the time. Fortunately it wasn't needed, but I think everyone should have a bit of secret savings, just in case.

That's good advice! When my daughter asks advice I give it reminding her I'm no expert after splitting with her dad and having several failed relationships since. She never takes my advice, maybe that's why she asks, so she can do the opposite! Whatever she does her relationship is going strong