What relationship advice would you give your daughter?

Have your own bank account.
Absence really does make the heart grow fonder, spend time apart doing things you enjoy.

CarlyD7 has got it spot on! I think the key issue is "caring and communication" - be sure to keep both going. (DH & I are coming up for our 36th anniversary, and I'd marry him again in a heartbeat.)

Keep the sex exciting

never feel you have to have the last word.
Some things just don't need to be said as they cannot be unsaid.

Never go to sleep, or drive a car, on an unsettled argument.

If you need to have a difficult conversation , feed your husband first . You will get a far better hearing .

Well my lovely mum obviously erred on the side of practicality. Her advice to me on the eve of my wedding was "be careful with money but never scrimp on toilet rolls or shoes" Bless her.

In the words of Bill and Ted, "Be excellent to each other!"

Believe in yourself.
Don’t think you can change him.
Only talk about your husband to a friend with a bad memory!

Pick your arguments. If it’s annoying but trivial bite your lip, no one likes a nag!

Truthfully, Don't make the mistakes I made. But she knows this already. I would just remind her.

Have patience and keep a sense of humour.

My IFA strongly advises having a ‘running away’ fund. Have never needed it (yet ?) but one day it will be there to be enjoyed by me or my beneficiaries

Remember that you have your faults too, and that some of your habits may irritate your husband.

NEVER repeat anything you are told by friends, relatives in confidence to your husband and don't ask him to tell you things said to him in confidence.

Refuse to repeat criticisms of him made by others. Tell the critic to talk to him about it her/himself.

Never promise the DH will do any favours for friends and family, if they want his help they can ask him for it.

Suggest to him that these points apply to him too, "what is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander."

Was going to say never go to sleep on an argument but it's tiring staying up all night!

If you each try to give 75% then if one day one of you only feels like 25%, the other should balance it, hopefully.

ALWAYS earn your own money, keep your own bank account and don’t put all your money in a joint bank account. Then whatever happens, illness, death or divorce you can manage

Have a joint bank account so u both know where that hard earned cash is going!

Love him for his faults as well as his virtues and hope that he will do the same.

To PaddyAnn ... my Dad said exactly that to me in the back of a big white rolls Royce on the way to the church.... and I should have said “ I do” but didn’t and had a dreadful marriage to a sulker who expected me to be somebody different to who I really was!
My darling Dads been gone 40 years this month and I still miss him every day. My take on marriage? Buyer beware!!!

For the bride .... have your own separate bank account and always keep your financial independence. Husbands treat you better if they know you have an ‘out’. Believe me since I realised this TOO late in my marriage for me ... but passed it on to daughter and her ‘out’ is imminent!

I'd sing
Let's Face the Music and Dance

Diana Krall

There may be trouble ahead
But while there's music and moonlight and love and romance
Let's face the music and dance

Before the fiddlers have fled
Before they ask us to pay the bill and while we still have the chance
Let's face the music and dance

Soon we'll be without the moon, humming a different tune and then
There may be teardrops to shed
So while there's moonlight and music and love and romance
Let's face the music and dance

Love that song Gabriella! Not sure about a running away fund. I don't think I would have been happy if my husband had a secret fund stashed away. And I would certainly not be impressed if my dils had secret savings. That said my husband and have always shared our money whoever earned it. I appreciate that may not always be the case, especially in the past.

As my girls were growing up I instilled in them never to cry over a man, and DD1 had an awful relationship with a man whilst living on the other side of the world. When she rang me to tell me they were splitting up (luckily not married) she said “I’m sorry Mum, I did cry a bit” - poor girl, it must have been bad. Wish I had been there to give her a hug then. Never mind - she picked herself up, dusted herself down and is now happily married with 3 children. Perhaps I had overdone the advice I was trying to give them!

With regard to “running away money”, a friend advised me about it when I got married, but suggested it could be any amount squirreled away, from a fiver to five hundred...... basically when the children were young and driving you up the walls on a rainy day, that you'd have the price of a cup of coffee in a cafe when you could manage to get away.... that might mean as much at that point in your life as the price of a flight away many years later!

Have a joint bank account for bills and saving and also separate accounts for personal spending,