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About to end friendship

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Brigidsdaughter Fri 08-Mar-19 11:51:28

I'm poor in confrontation (outside my family of DH, DS and myself) and not so good on my feet either in tricky chats.
I cant put revealing details here but in chat in shared car journey my so called friend (A) really laid into someone I like (B)and am friends with. (Starting off with 'I know you like her BUT...)
I defended, of course, but what really made it worse was A came with me to B's house for a lovely meal plus hobby activity where I needed a partner, ie accepted B's hospitality but free to be nasty to me later. Apparently, she went to do me a favour!!
I did ask A but with a few weeks notice and because we were due to be together that day anyway. My own fault to a point.
I'm upset at someone bitching to me about my other friend. It was heated, stemming from jealousy, but nasty imo.
Am about to end things and while I'd love to send an email/text I'll be grown up and do it face to face. Never felt like this before about anyone. Usualky a night's sleep sorts it out. Horribly sour taste in mouth.
We are doing a course together but may pull out or distance myself..
Am I mad?

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Brigidsdaughter Sun 10-Mar-19 03:44:57

Thank you all. I live Gransnet and the range of experience you all bring to a situation.
We'll be at the lesson on Tuesday and will see how it goes. Going direct- no lift

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AlgeswifeVal Sun 10-Mar-19 07:14:21

Best of luck Bridsdaughter. I am in a similar situation with my friend. We had strong words over her betrayal to me a few weeks back now. She doesn’t like me talking for too long to anyone else, she says I avoid her, I don’t, when in other people’s company. She’s rather possessive. Our friendship continues but is a bit fractured though. I will not ditch her , don’t want to shoot myself in the foot. I have just stepped back a bit by seeing less of her. I have other friends and also like doing certain things on my own. My advice is, Dont let her bully you. Use her for your own sanity, or move on without her.

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kwest Sun 10-Mar-19 12:21:23

Just let it go. Fulfill any of the plans that you want to and then 'ghost' her.

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Brigidsdaughter Tue 19-Mar-19 19:38:24

We met for our lesson today. As though nothing had happened so on way I asked were we ok. Agreed to move on. However, I think we both know where we stand. I'll be going on cruise, playing less between now a d then, more time for myself and house. Other bridge pals too. I'm getting over a sore back and the a get has gone, just a bit flat. (I'm a dreadful housewife, low energy to boot, so will be a good opportunity to find more balance in my life.)
Thank you all. I love Gransnet and all you Gransnetters

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