Sunday lunch today

Are you and your husband able to get out? If so, I'd book a table somewhere every Sunday. Don't go to all the bother of preparation, cooking and washing-up.

If you can't get out, how about a takeaway, or a ready meal?

About listening to Leonard Cohen...I find his music so terribly depressing . Give yourself a rest - let someone else cook x

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I like Jane10's suggestion.

Tell HIM to go do it!

Hilmix, tell him you're his wife not his servant.

Liztofriends there's a list of abbreviations at the top and bottom of page, except they call them Acronyms! There is discussion here quite often about this, as acronyms are actually something different (abbreviations that make a word). Some commonly used ones aren't there, such as OP, which means original poster.

You don't have to use them when posting - some do, some don't.

Is there a glossary of abbreviations on here? I can work out most of them, but some have me stumped! ?

What a helpful reply Jaxie I do hope Hilmix sees it and most important acts on it.

Hilmix: It has taken me 55 years of marriage to a sulker to realise how controlling he's been. He won't eat any shop bought food except custard tartlets. He too makes sarcastic, cutting remarks about food I cook. Friends, however, compliment me on my cooking, so it can't be that bad. For the first time recently I've started " biting back". I challenge him about his comments and tell him how he makes me feel. Then I say things like," No more apple pies for you until you apologise." At first he seemed amazed, then he almost whispers an apology. I remind myself that the poor old bugger is 81, has few pleasures, like a lot of old people, food being a major one, but I refuse to field these nasty comments any more. I've threatened him with divorce in the past, and I think he knows I mean it. I don't like sinking to such ploys, but for my own very eroded self respect I intend to hold my own. Very sad, when your husband is supposed to be your best friend. My thoughts are with you.

My OH and I both cook, sometimes together, sometimes one or other of us spending what each of us are doing. We do have conversations about the food and might discuss if something was tough/ tasty/ needed more flavour or whatever. But ofcourse that is the difference to what the OP described ...it is mutual conversation not a damning, negative criticism of the others efforts.

Thank you Gabriella I was worried I had said too much. I am now concerned that Hilmix has gone to ground with all our comments, but this may be the turning point for her. No woman or man should be spoken to like that.

We are right behind you Hilmix. ?

How rude and ungrateful! Sounds like a lovely meal which you put a lot of effort into. If my OH was so mean to me after I'd cooked that, I think I'd
tip the plate into his lap! Poor you ☹
Is he always like that to you?

Usually pre-prepped, bought in stuff in pubs. Pre sliced meat and frozen everything else. Not for me.

I agree with NanKate and the more I read comments on different threads the more I appreciate not living with a man.
I'd never put up with half of it.

@bikergran That is so funny

How about going out for Sunday lunch or get him to cook it

OMG...phone a friend and go for a long lunch with them....tell hubby to put something in the microwave....you're not his skivvy!!!

Sounds like problems with his teeth to me. My DH will always enthuse about meals like cottage pie with mushy peas and know it's his teeth that are the problem.
Having said that, if there genuinely is a bone in the fish or a bit of gristle in the meat it always seems to be in his portion, not mine!

We go out out for lunch each Sunday to some very nice pubs. Not cooked Sunday lunch for years. Please try it this Sunday coming enjoy. It could the start of something good you would like. Good luck.

Cheap ready meal or he cooks next time. I wouldn't wait a whole week! And if he complains, I'd tell him very sweetly that since nothing was right last time, you have stopped making wholly unappreciated efforts.

Posts like this make me feel really bad for ever moaning about my dh, who never cooks (he invariably clears up though) but eats whatever I give him and is grateful for it.

Have you actually talked to him about this behaviour..and how long have you been trying to ‘please?’
If this is fairly recent then perhaps he is angry with you for something else, but can’t voice it?

I recall a cartoon labelled: " One man's meat------------is another woman's Sunday gone"

Don't try to please someone as rude as this. Join an evangelical church with three hour services. Join a rambling group which takes a packed lunch on Sindays. Pay for him to have cookery lessons.

My grumble about mine is, we visit quite a few coffee shops that have loyalty cards ( get a free cup after x of cups bought) We were in one and I was going through my purse to locate that particular one , had to go through it a few times to find. Much huffing and pudding and general complaining about keeping him waiting and not to bother ( prob less than 2/3 minutes )
On his return I reminded him that I drive him to various places - wood yards, car part shops, Screwfix etc to name a few, and often sit waiting on the car for 15 + minutes and often longer !

His dinner would have been in his lap if he was my OH!

@Hilmix

Have a day off next Sunday and ask him to cook it how he would like it to be done