Future daughter In law

Mommie6 I feel stressed just reading about your problem. I hope the other family can come to some sort of compromise but by the sounds of it I wouldn't be holding my breath. Can you talk to your son about how you are feeling?

I had to Google as I was curious about cookies and weddings. I came across this, so it does seem to be "a thing"

A cookie table is a wedding tradition said to originate in Western Pennsylvania, where in place of or in addition to a wedding cake, a large table with different cookies is presented to guests at the wedding reception. ... Cookie tables are included in primarily Italian or Catholic wedding receptions.

And this . . . .

The wedding cookie table tradition is a phenomena deeply ingrained within the Pittsburgh wedding culture. Various historical sources state that the origin of the cookie table varies. Some sources believe that it originated in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, while others argue soulfully that it all began in Youngstown, Ohio.14 Jun 2016

Jalima1108 Don't you think this is all true then?

I agree with stella . no info .no cakes .i suggest a family meeting...and see who is doing what? 6.000 cookies you having a laugh. tell her to get a caterer in. ask your son...

This exact situation has happened to us with the result that our son is now alienated from us. We were kept out of the first pregnancy as well so do not know our little grandson and they have now moved along way away. I can only describe her as a she devil and am so annoyed with our son for letting this happen. Best advice is to back off and hope they change over time.

Oh my goodness. Language tells me you are American. I would say NO NO NO. They deserve nothing. I would be trying to point out to son what he is marrying into.....

A bridal shower is similar to a baby shower
Oh! I did wonder, as we went to a wedding last year where there was a sudden downpour, luckily everyone made an 'umbrella aisle' for the bride and groom as the wedding was outside.

How much?

Perhaps it is a way to discover how much you have in savings for your old age? It really sounds as though she is trying to find out about your family finances. Say and promise nothing and say you will give them something after they are wed.

6 pages of helpful response without a word back from poster. Think all that can be said has been said,

I did issue me standard take care warning very early on!

That's interesting Hurdygurdy

What a wind-up.

When the OP doesn't get back then it is time for us grans to allow the thread to expire. None of us should be giving our time and advice in cases like this.

I have googled it. Yes, the cookie table is a tradition in Western Pennsylvania ????

I did issue me standard take care warning very early on!
It has been quite enjoyable, though, kittylester

I was waiting for a recipe for cookies, do you think the OP has gone?

Buy some Hobnobs.

It could be a clash of cultures. You don't say .

Waitrose or M&S do very nice cookies, so they deliver to the US?
£2.00 per pack, 7 in a pack, 7s into 6,000 is about 858 packets x £2 = approximately £1,715.00, plus cellophane, tags and ribbons, £2,000 give or take a £1 or two, convert to $ at the exchange rate on the day and Bob's your uncle (or aunt).

Jalima I think I can undercut you.

Okay, so:

Maryland Cookies are currently half price at Tesco, 62p per 230g pack;

20 cookies per pack;

300 packs = 6000 cookies;

300 x 0.62 = £186.00 in total.

Bit steep for biscuits but £186 not that bad really.

No-one will notice the difference Muffin - don't forget the cellophane bags and ribbons _ wedding tags!

On the other hand, you could offer to bake 6,000 muffins

half-price at Tesco??
I'm off to Tesco tomorrow!

Simple answer.....as it's on a Need to Know basis, I'll be applying the same principle with a Need to Pay.

Yes half price Maryland cookies, I was most pleased to find those yesterday.

The next ice age will come before I successfully bake 6000 muffins.

You mean cookies Muffin? Or were you just playing around ?