Aggressive husband

Are you o.k. Telegran

As most have said you are living with a domestic abuser and no partner needs to tolerate abuse these days. You can telephone a Domestic abuse line to chat with someone about what you are experiencing. They can't give advice but they can help clarify all the questions you have. Everyone who experiences domestic abuse is in a dark place, it's hard to think straight and they help you to see what is right and what is wrong.

If you are ever threatened please phone the police. If he is using emotional & psychological abuse now it can develop quickly into physical abuse. As it seems to have gone on a long time you must talk about it. I expect your mother, family & friends are aware but do not want to bring it up with you. Have somewhere "safe" to go to in a hurry in case things become too much.
Contact Women's Aid, they can give advice and support.
Don't try and cope with this on your own and all best wishes. And hugs

I have seen this sort of behaviour used against my sil. Her husband of 40 years kept her in much the same way. All her salary went into his account and he would give her £100 per month to spend on food for the family.

Five years ago she met someone, left my bil and now has a life where she is now at peace with herself and her new life.

They are now divorced, got half his pension, half the house and savings. I used to be a pension administrator and in theory the couple will have all assets including pensions split equally. It is up to the court to decide how the pension is split and will involve actuaries to make calculations. It's an expensive process so be sure to have some money set aside.

Never mind you mother, this is YOUR life not hers. Go live it before it's too late!!

Good luck, and I sincerely hope you will find a new life that you deserve.

Thanks Breeze for explaining about Heidi’s thread error.

Hi everyone, just thought I’d better update you all. I’m ok just having a sort out and putting things together “” SPRING CLEANING “ if you get my drift . Anything happens again I’m going to get the police involved immediately please don’t worry if you don’t hear from me nothings happened in all these years only mentally I think the fog is beginning to clear at least I know a lot more now due to everyone on here being so lovely and giving lots of love and advice I thank everyone. Will pop on every week just to update you all. Hope everyone is happy and sort your problems out too. Xxx

Thanks for letting us know you're ok, Telegran! Best of luck moving forward!

I'm in the same situation angry outbursts but nice man at church and lovely to all who meet him. I'm planning to escape and am putting everything in order won't be easy but I can't wait. Peace when he is out at the gym. I hope you manage to escape and gave the life you deserve leave the miserable b..... To fend for himself I wish you well

Chloejo - Hugs! And good luck!