Should I move out

Actually, Vauxhall, you have just contradicted yourself a bit. You say "thank you for the positive comments" and in the next breath say GN's were "not much help at all, just really heartless people".
Rather unkind, I think, on your part, because actually most posters were trying to offer support and advice. What has confused many is that on the surface, you seem to want to leave the marriage based on how much sport your DH watches except when he "allows" you to watch soaps.
I suspect your problems lie much deeper than how much tv your DH watches, but posters can only make guesses and therefore not offer much in depth advice because what you are saying or rather, not saying.
From what you are saying, I can only suggest that you try discussing with your DH what is really troubling you and take it from there.As I say, I suspect your issues go much deeper than how much tv and what kind of tv, your DH watches.

It does depend on the council with the rehousing policy.
I had to leave my husband as he had become mentally unstable and wasn’t safe for the children and I but his mental health team wouldn’t help him until he had carried the threats through.
I took the three children and myself to my mums, was still very near our own home and same council.
I rang for help to get somewhere to live and was told that as the house was joint tenancy and I had also made myself deliberately homeless they wouldn’t do anything unless I went to my husband and got him to sign the tenancy over to me so look into it very carefully before deciding what you want to do.
Good luck

This is no life for you vauxhall58. If you feel that you can go it alone why not? Why should any woman put up with a man who is selfish and wants to be waited on? I bet you cook, mend and clean for him. Marriage is give and take on both sides, not just his.

Why not look for a bolt hole first? Perhaps you have friends (or friends of friends) who can put you up for a week or so until you have thought up a plan. You do not say if you are working. At 59 you could surely find a part time job or even voluntary work. That would enable you to have more scope to your life. There is nothing men hate more than to see their wife happy and content. Never let a man know what you hate doing. You could volunteer in an animal sanctuary perhaps? A charity shop?

Don't give up on yourself. What is the point of staying in a marriage if you might as well be free to do as you please.

If he adamantly refuses to do anything with you as he prefers watching his own choice of tv all the time I would definitely consider leaving. Are you though going to be able to financially? That is a biggy but may be worth any struggle to have something out of life. As for the dog, why not get your own one, dog rescue centres can give you a big choice and they would love someone like you having experience already of being a dog owner. Good Luck whatever you chose.

You don't have to leave to get a life and get things changed, think hard and long. You will be losing the security of a home, for what? I have said it before could still share a house as friends, talk to him.

Sorry to hear of your situation Vauxhall. Sounds you are feeling incredibly lonely. Would you and he agree to couples counselling? Ignore any negative messages on here, it's not the place to be unkind to people suffering. X

Vauxhall I asked yesterday but you have not answered

Do you love your husband ? I think that really is the main question

Saggi - great solutions!

''If you can think of one reason, no matter how small, to stay, then you really don't want to go. If you really wanted to go ... nothing would stop you''

Best advice^ on this thread, imo!

"Do you love your husband ? I think that really is the main question"

And this^^ probably is the best question. Because if you still love him, Vauxhall, then I'm sure you'll find a way to make do with a second tv or watching on your laptop and finding fun things to do on your own. You say you don't have many friends, but couldn't you socialize with those you have? Or join new groups and make new friends?

If you don't love him, then none of these suggestions will help very much, and you'll want to leave.

Imo, it's that simple - and that complicated.

Good advice Starlady. Would also if you have a joint tenancy for your Council House, then you could stay BUT either get a divorce or separation order and live separate lives in the same house. You let the Council know that you want to move. They will put you on the housing list but not as a priority but you will still be on the list. Also if you have joint tenancy and you move into rented accommodation then you are making yourself homeless and they will not help. We all go through doubt about the life we are living so you not alone, you just need to find a way around it that isn't too drastic and not make our situation worse.

Brilliant solution Saggi your own peaceful sanctum with minimal disruption. Good on you.

Thanks, Barmeyoldbat! But really, I was just quoting other posters here. Your post is very helpful, too, imo.

You both sound as if you are in a very boring rut- him with his sport, you with your soaps. What attracted you to each other? What did you do together? Why so many dogs? There must be something that has kept you together all this time- can you find some common ground now? Walking the dogs together? Finding a tv programme you both enjoy? Going to the pub?

get another tv...and then shut the door on him .let him grouch .miserable old s*d.i would go my own way .you can still live there .but make it plain he can do his own washing etc.if you really peed off ,move out ..why spend anymore years with someone you cant get on with.....

Saggi. From what you say your OH and others like him, are prime candidates for DVT, which kills thousands of people every year........