Am new to gransnet so please be kind to me.
Looking for advice and wisdom in how to deal with family trauma. My daughter was left last year with 2 children under the age of 3 when her husband decided he didn't want her. Don't think there is another woman but he wasn't prepared to discuss it just said he was unhappy in the marriage. He went back to his mother's house and had the children there every weekend. My daughter had a depressive breakdown in February and had to leave work. She is now recovering and is moving on trying to find another job but life is stressful.
His family have not spoken to her since he left other than the initial outburst from his mother saying she is an unfit mother,definitely not the case.
My role has been supportive with helping with looking after the kids and trying to keep her going. She lives 20 miles away. My own health mentally and physically has declined through stress but am coping.
What I would like to know is opinions on how I can help my daughter and should I be more proactive in dealing with the estranged in-laws ? I am so angry not just with my son in law for leaving but with the whole family who have abandoned her but still have all the treats with the children at weekend plastered on Facebook. Of course I want the children to be loved by all the family and have treats but seems unfair.
Perhaps it is a situation which will never be resolved.
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