Another one here who doesn't like the term narcissist being bandied about. Google is great for providing information but it is not a diagnostic tool. Describing symptoms/ behaviour to a professional is one thing but flinging around a medical term when a professional has not diagnosed is another IMHO. I have , during the course of my work, met many people with serious and enduring mental health issues. I have met many who over several years have had widely differing diagnoses, from personality disorders then paranoia, then bi polar disorder. All in the same person at different times. If a medical professional who has had umpteen years of training can't make a definite diagnosis then how can anyone with no training come to a diagnosis? I understand that other posters feel that no diagnosis is being made but if you use the term even as shorthand then that is what we are doing. As I have already said I am fully aware that women can be abusive, I also believe that there are often two sides to any story. For example; I have issues with a couple of my husband's friends. They are of the opinion that I won't allow him to go out on boy's nights out with them . It stems from when our children were small and he had promised that he would be in the home at the weekend to help. I worked full time and needed him around. His friends, who were unattached with no children, decided that I was being unfair to him. The fact that I was exhausted didn't come into it. So there are the two sides. Which one of us was right?
Clearly this is a very difficult situation for the OP and the rest of the family .As I said provide a listening ear but avoid being judgemental. When it is all done and dusted you still want to be on reasonable terms with all parties.
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