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LadyOz Sun 14-Jul-19 16:15:34

My DH of nearly 50 yrs tells people things that I would rather they did not know.
I am quite a private person and just don't like others knowing my business, especially personal stuff.
He says he is proud of me and wants others to know it.

Do you think I'm the one with the problem as I don't even like telling people where I'm going on holiday for instance and I especially don't care for telling people how much things cost!
He will be out and about and when he comes home he'll say something like "oh I saw so and so and told them blah blah blah" and it just really infuriates me.

I am excellent at keeping a confidence and obviously don't tell him stuff that friends have asked me not to.
Even the kids won't tell him stuff.

dogsmother Mon 15-Jul-19 15:03:01

Mine does this bit, I get cross/bored....seems he wants to share the ins and outs of our lives with whoever’s around ? I so relate but don’t no what the solution is.

Dee1012 Mon 15-Jul-19 15:04:53

I actually ended a relationship over something very similar...my ex partner discussed everything with his family and what I found particularly upsetting was, due to the fact they'd maintained close contact with his ex-wife, she was also privy to our life! The final straw for me was a very personal medical procedure being openly discussed.
I'm quite a private person and I just couldn't deal with it.
He couldn't see the issue because it was "family".

Solonge Mon 15-Jul-19 16:17:57

Hahaha....Alima, very good!

GreenGran78 Mon 15-Jul-19 16:49:21

My daughter's future MIL grabbed an opportunity to photograph her wedding dress, pre-wedding, and showed the pictures to her family!
DD nearly called off the wedding, as her partner couldn't see what the problem was. The marriage did break down eventually.

Cabbie21 Mon 15-Jul-19 22:49:17

My DH did not even tell anyone except his family that we were getting married. No friends, no colleagues. He is a very private person.

Rene72 Tue 16-Jul-19 14:25:00

My H tells anybody and everybody everything. I found out he’d told all his Labour Party friends I’d just been told I had a heart problem, I went mad, I don’t know these people at all and only found out because I was in the car with him when a woman rang him and started discussing me and my heart with him, obviously she didn’t know I was there and I could hear everything she said!
He also claims he’s done this or that when he hasn’t. Like when he told a group of his ‘friends’ how he’d done the garden making it so that I didn’t have to bend down to do it! Actually, he sat on his arse and watched our son and my stepson do it and he never put one single plant in! When I interrupt him to tell the real story I get a thump in the ribs.
He’s always lying about what he does in the house etc when actually it’s me or our son that does it, stepson only helps when he’s forced to.
He tells that many lies he wouldn’t know the truth if it smacked him in the face.
I am a very private person and don’t like people knowing my business. I don’t consider it’s his place to talk about me to anyone, especially as I hadn’t even told my family!

MissAdventure Tue 16-Jul-19 14:31:14

He sounds very insecure, so maybe try and remember that when you feel like bashing him in! grin
My ex could be a bit like that, so much so that I bought him a bell which others could ring when they suspected a tall story, or when he was showing off.
We had many a fun time at his expense.

MissAdventure Tue 16-Jul-19 14:32:38

Oh, and sometimes he would stop mid story and ring the bell himself.

Dawn22 Tue 16-Jul-19 14:40:19

My husband is a blabbermouth and l am the opposite. Really tricky dynamic.
Dawn.