Bircher, the guilt thing! Have you asked your DH how he would feel about you going out and doing some of the things you love (but he doesn't)? Surely you have and, if so, what was his reply? How did it make you feel?
I have a good friend who is slowly giving up all the things she loves because she says going out without her DH is not worth the grief and hassle she gets when she returns home. There's nothing overt, but she tells me the guilt he makes her feel afterwards is dreadful. She has even stopped dropping in on friends unless there's a reason or, in your words, 'a cast iron excuse' like walking their dog, delivering a card, etc. She is living a pressure cooker existence at present and her resentment of him is growing. We all know what happens to pressure cookers if you don't release the pressure . . .
Good Morning Thursday Maundy Thursday 28th March 2024