Worrying all the time about grown ups!

If it helps I worry about mine - aged 33 -went to uni late now has a good job but recently broke up a 10year relationship and had some mental health issues resulting from that. I try to be there when he needs /wants, try not to be too pushy and tell myself I ave done all I can and will continue to do but I do understand - it's tough

Wow!!! Thankyou all so very much for your various replies to my post. In your different ways you are all pretty much saying the same thing, so I will try hard to take it all on board. ?

I think we all would love our adult children be have a good life and be settled, but worrying never solves anything,

Hey Jen67,
I understand. My son first went to uni at 19 and came home after four weeks saying he wasn't ready and wanted to earn some money and learn to cook. To say I wasn't concerned is an understatement. But, he went to work and he finally went back to uni at 24. He did a lot of thinking. He met some great people there and is still friends with them. He is 30 next year and I am proud. He isn't married but dates and has a job he enjoys and lives in Japan. Obviously I can't see him but we talk frequently. Being so far away kills me, but I know he's ok. It's so, so hard letting them go. Don't worry about him settling, he's in school, he needs to do this now. It may even change, again. Everyone is different. He will need your love and support. Whatever he does, just be there for him. It'll all be good. I hope this helps. You're a mom, you'll be just fine. Plus we're all on here for you too. xx

It's funny really, but my doting dad completely stopped worrying when I got married. (Exactly when he should have been worried, in reality). When I left my husband, he resumed fretting until I remarried. All totally unnecessary, of course, as I'm an independent, capable, happy-go-lucky type of person. When I was widowed, his worrying resumed. He insisted upon giving me an allowance (not needed) until he retired, bless him!