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Chloejo Thu 21-Nov-19 21:37:13

in 2015 I found my husband had been texting another women he says she was just a friend! our marriage had been going through a bad patch due to having looked after elderly parents and it took its toll. I don't believe him and I found a card written from other woman to the man I love with lots of kisses. he gets upset and depressed when I keep bringing it up I do keep going on about it he says he has not had affair and the way he reacts I want to believe him but I have doubts, Its destroying me and he says nothing happened he was just depressed. I have contacted the woman and she says don't insult me I wouldn't go with a married man! ive been in hell for years now over this we are trying to save our marriage but I don't know what to do since finding card he said she had a crush on him,

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Tedber Sat 23-Nov-19 22:35:35

I just wonder - off the record lol - how many people would deny being flattered by ego boosting attention from others?

I can't work out when all this happened or stopped but if it was all back in 2015 and nothing new - I would just let it go! Nothing in life is PERFECT, people aren't PERFECT. I don't actually think anyone knows anyone else totally. No matter how long you have been married. Am sure everyone has 'guilty pleasures' and thoughts that they don't share.

Don't mean they can act on them but assuming there is nothing else going on in this relationship and you want to stay married then what have you got to gain by keep digging and probing?

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Alexa Mon 25-Nov-19 14:05:32

Right you are Tedber! It's well to be aware of my own frailty then I can be on my guard.

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