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How long did you know your husband/wife for before you were married?

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SirChenjin Mon 06-Jan-20 20:00:26

Leading on from another thread I’ve just posted on.

DH and I got engaged after six weeks and married just over a year later. His parents got engaged after a long weekend and then hardly saw each other between their engagement and the wedding because he was in the RAF. I have encouraged the DCs not to follow our lead - it was rather silly as you really don’t know the person, romantic though it was!

Can anyone beat my PIL?! Or DH and I?

SusiQ8 Tue 07-Jan-20 13:21:29

We met as a blind date, got engaged after five weeks and we married within six months of our first date. I was 20 and my DH 22. Apparently my cousin overheard my aunt saying “it will never work, they haven’t known each other for long enough” . Well 46 years later and still very much in love, what can I say.

UnclaspedBrinks Tue 07-Jan-20 13:22:09

I met my wife on the Wednesday evening.

I all but moved in to her place with her on the Friday evening.

She asked me to marry her 3-weeks to the day from the day we met.

Granted it took us 5-years to get around to getting married but, this coming October will be our 21st year together and we have 4-kids.

SirChenjin Tue 07-Jan-20 14:00:23

I’m so glad I started this thread - it’s so lovely to read all your posts and reassuring to know that we aren’t the only fast movers! Thank you all for sharing your stories smile❤️

Would you be happy if your DC repeated your sprint to the aisle of would you prefer them to wait? I’m in the ‘wait’ camp but understand they will ignore their mother’s wishes and do exactly what feels right grin

lindadoughty650 Tue 07-Jan-20 14:50:06

Met and married in exactly six weeks. Family thought I had gone away for a new job and I had not told them because parents would have wanted to make a big "do" and I knew they could not afford it. Lasted 27 years.

luluaugust Tue 07-Jan-20 14:59:45

I was 17 he was 21 when we met, married at 19 and still together 52 years now.

JulieMM Tue 07-Jan-20 15:08:38

We were engaged after 3 months and married 6 months later. A stormy few years but we were determined we were right for each other ... we’ll be celebrating our 43rd anniversary in April!

KatyK Tue 07-Jan-20 15:09:00

Two years for us. I was 18, he was 21. We celebrated 50 years of marriage this year. We worked for the same organisation but in different departments. I had to walk through his office to take post on a regular basis. He told me I had the best legs he'd ever seen! This was the 60s, mini skirts etc.

Bluedaisy Tue 07-Jan-20 15:34:35

I met my first husband at 14, got engaged to him at 17, I was married to him at 19. He started having an affair so we broke up in the March when I was 22, got a ‘quicky’ Divorce, I met my present husband on 5th May, we tried for a baby almost immediately as I was already having fertility treatment with first husband due to being told i couldn’t have children from heath reasons, I fell pregnant in July, and married my present husband in October....phew! Gave birth to my son the following March.
Yes it was all extremely quick, no I would never do that again so quickly if I had my time over again, yes we’ve had some rocky times......and good ones....but we’ve just celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary last October. So divorced, met and married again in 6 months.

4allweknow Tue 07-Jan-20 15:49:12

Grannybags you were brave living in sin 50 years ago. Someone where I lived tried to do that and her family almost camped outside her door waving a "slut" banner! Her family disowned her. Girl and "bidey up" moved to a city not long after. Now and for the past 20 or so years it's been the norm. You were a trendsetter!

annsixty Tue 07-Jan-20 16:23:10

We met at school when we were 16 and 15, got engaged at 21 and 19, my mother wouldn’t let me marry so we got married when I was 21 and 3 weeks.
Married for over 60 years when he died 9 months ago.
Would I have married so young with hindsight? No.
Would I have married him again later? In a heartbeat.

PernillaVanilla Tue 07-Jan-20 16:30:17

We met on holiday in Greece in October and were engaged before the end of the holiday. We told our families at Christmas time and then got married in the following August.
We would have got married sooner but I had to get a new job and we had to sell 2 houses and buy a together home, plus the fact that the reception venue was booked up until then. 35 years on still very happy together.

ALANaV Tue 07-Jan-20 17:27:49

1st husband ….friend's boyfriend;s 21st birthday. Married at 23 until 40 when he ran off with the local barmaid !! Second ….ran off with a woman from the USA he had never met. Together for 14 years. Third AND DEFINITELY THE LAST met in Feb married in December 18 years until he died last year ……..wish I'd stayed single …..

HappyBumbleBee Tue 07-Jan-20 17:35:00

We met in the April, found out we were expecting our first child the following Feb and got married in the July before he was born in the November. So we'll have been together 28yrs in April and married 27yrs in July! ❤️

callgirl1 Tue 07-Jan-20 18:18:22

We ,met Nov 30th 1963, married July 13th same year. Clocked up just over 53 years before he died just over 3 years ago.

Magrithea Tue 07-Jan-20 18:37:24

We knew each other nearly 4 years!

At the 25th wedding anniversary dinner for the senior partner of my DH's firm jaws dropped when he started his speech "When I met (DW) 25 years and 3 months ago....!!

grannyactivist Tue 07-Jan-20 18:52:20

ladymuck if my husband had made attributions about me based on my family he would never have married me! On the other hand, I'd have married him like a shot - I love my parents-in-law to pieces! grin

Glenfinnan Tue 07-Jan-20 19:45:45

Met my husband when I was 16, married at 18. Married now for 52 years!

Lovemybed Tue 07-Jan-20 19:51:51

Met, married and pregnant in under a year. Mind I had a long wait for him - but he was worth it.

LadyGracie Tue 07-Jan-20 20:09:38

Met when I was just 18 and he 20 in Malaysia and married in Singapore 18 months later, 50th anniversary this year.

Solonge Tue 07-Jan-20 20:56:43

I was a student nurse...he was a Trainee GP....we met on a children's ward in Brighton....fell in love, moved in together and were married within two years. That was 1975....still together.

Witchypoo Tue 07-Jan-20 21:06:18

Moved in after six months. Married three years later. Together forty five years when he died eighteen months ago

popsis71 Tue 07-Jan-20 21:32:33

Met & married within 12 months 47 years ago. Ages - 19 & 24. She only did it to save me from a life of baked beans & pork pies - it worked.

Barmeyoldbat Tue 07-Jan-20 21:52:03

With husband number it was lust at first sight and we married after 8 months and divorced after 6 years. Stayed friends. Husband number 2 was a friend for a for about a year before we got together and he moved in and we married after years of living together. Lasted 30 years because we were friends first and share the same interests. also treat each other as equals, Its a very happy marriage.

57VRS Tue 07-Jan-20 22:18:53

We met on the 4th December and got engaged on New Years eve the same month. Been together 26 years and still very happy.

BlueSapphire Tue 07-Jan-20 23:01:02

Met in Singapore 1969, (I was teaching at a Forces school, he was FCO), engaged 6 weeks later, but didn't marry till 1972 shortly after we returned to the UK, as we wanted a family wedding. (Lived together out there.....). Married for nearly 46 years, till DH died in 2018.