Should I say the 3 little words first

Once said, can’t be unsaid. Why not just carry on treating him in a loving way? Actions and all that.....

Only say those words if you truly mean them. If you have to ask us then the answer is that you are not ready to say those words.

I once told a guy I loved him (first) and never saw him again (I was 16 though) ?

Don't!

Early days! Wait until it comes naturally, if it does.

Yes, too soon after you got back together. Wait a while.

Such a little word with so many repercussions if you get it wrong.
I always wait to see if it's really real before I commit to saying it, and that takes a long time.

And it means absolutely nothing if said after sex!

A friend told her man friend she thought she was falling in love with him. That was the end of the relationship she’d scared him off. I’d wait til he said it first.

Thank you all for your sound advice you all seem to be of one mind,
I am going to wait

Kittye - but then they can both 'play that game' forever ... neither daring saying it first.

I believe if it is right it is, and if not, the sooner you know the better. I'd say it- either it is reciprocated, and that is wonderful.
Or it is not ... and time to let go.

Why do you think you are scared of saying it? That would be my question! If you love him. Tell him, agree with Jura2

Why cant you say it if you feel you really want to do you think he feels the same.

Life is too short, just say it

Ask yourself: If it wasn't Valentines Day, would you be considering saying it?
Then you should have your answer.....

You were apart for 2 years but you really love/loved him? He might find that strange.

No don`t.
A friend of mine made that mistake,she told her now x she loved him and his reply to that was don`t complicate things.
She was so hurt and to this day talks about it and that was over 20 years ago.

But if you do send a card that says I love You , he might say it back to you!
If he did a runner wouldn't it be better to know?
I say if you feel it then send the card.

Bit early, maybe wait and see what he has planned for Valentines Day.

I've been in a 'situationship' for a year. Neither has labelled it so far. I have feelings. I'm scared to voice them for the same reasons. Sorry I can't be more helpful but I certainly feel your dilemma ?

well I love most everyone,, love is love,,, different sorts of love.. we take it all too seriously,, love whilst you can..

I would be very wary of saying it, in my situation I know my male friend (not partner) would run a mile. We have a strong friendship, I have a definite soft spot for him but love - no. Any cards I send are jokey not sentimental

Say it if it feels right but be prepared for the consequences if he doesn't feel the same way....sorry not much help I know.

My DH, who was the "love of my life" & I rarely said it but actions speak louder than words.

Why not send a card that says " I love being with you?

Met a chap I knew when I was at school last year. Had not seen him in 30 years! Took a leap of faith, we went on holiday and so far so good. I said love you first but mitigated it then by saying it was an in the moment thing. Men do get frightened by commitment but life is short and you have already wasted two whole years!