DD yet more heartbreak. Why always her?

If they really want a baby, then never give up hope. My second youngest DD suffered several early miscarriages, and went to our local fertility clinic for help. Likewise, it was her partner who had problems with a low sperm count and mobility. She was assured that given time, there was a high chance of a successful pregnancy, but they opted for using donor sperm, and she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl the following year. They where both very happy to have a baby to call their own at last, and were very proud parents indeed.
DD continued to feel very tired and unwell after the birth, but just put this down to the hard work of becoming a new mum and coping with sleepless nights and recovering from a long difficult labour. At her post natal appointment with her midwife, several weeks later, she told her how tired she was still feeling. Further questioning and a blood test followed, and both her and her partner were truly amazed, she had actually conceived naturally, and gave birth to a baby boy exactly a year and a week after her first DD arrived. Just to say, never give up hope, with help, most couples do conceive given time.

So sorry

My husband has a friend like your SIL,no drive no ambition but the nicest most content man on the planet.Please dont dismiss him as not right for your daughter just because he,doen't want to work himself to death or finds it best to let things happen rather than MAKE them happen/The baby loss is a different thing,he isn't AT FAULT because of his low sperm count ...I'm sure he didn't ask for that or cause it.Would you be blaming your daughter if the conception problem was hers?
I think the figures are one in three for miscarriages so its no ones fault its just what it is.On the positive side if she managed to concieve once then she knows its possible to concieve again,and it was early in the pregnancy which tends to be easier to accept.I say that as someone who had multiple losses early and after birth .I hope she /they get the help they need to get through this and can be optimistic about the future .All you can do is be supportive without being judgemental about their situation .

Oh your poor daughter. You must be beside yourself with worry and so upset for her. We're so helpless when nasty adult things happen to our children, as I know. So, so sad x

I’m so sorry. Our children’s pain is our own so of course you’re hurting. Sending a hug and . Come and talk to us whenever it helps. There’s always someone to listen.

I am so sorry lizbeth. You and your family must be very upset. I too have lost 3 not to be grandchildren and it is a very sad time.
I think your daughter really needs to decide how she feels about your SIL. Being proactive and ambitious are some people’s targets in life but they are not the be all and end all of everything. Your daughter could find a man who is ambitious and wealthy and proactive but he may well not be as kind and loving as her DH. Perhaps she should decide where her priorities lie before thinking about getting pregnant again but at the moment you all need some love and tlc x

Life is horribly unfair sometimes. Good people have bad things happen to them, and vice versa, which can make no sense to those who love them.

There is nothing I can say to make it better, but have a virtual hug. xx

Sending virtual hugs, it is so very hard when our children are hurting and there is nothing we can do to heal them