It would be wonderful if anyone has some advice for me. I used to work for a Women's Aid group with a refuge so I have some experience I dealing with the subject. However, my daughter disclosed that her husband had been violent to her about 4 years previously, and the police were called...told her to leave! Not so simple, with two young children.
He has continued to be physically, on occasion, but constantly emotionally abusive. It is now nine months since she declared that she would divorce him. We have, obviously, told her that we would support her in whatever she chooses to do. I have given her contacts so that she can get up to date legal and financial advice, which she says she will follow up, but never does . Her communication with us is intermittent, and I have found out that she has totally cut off contact with her two best friends of 20 and 40years. She lives about 20 minutes drive from us, and since my husband and I have had the vaccine, we had hoped to try to see her and the children. However, in no uncertain terms, we were told to stay away, not to come to the house. This is not the person any of us know. She always said that she would never ever put up with abuse.
I imagine that she is ground down, probably depressed, not able to contemplate to process of the means of moving on, and could be pre menopausal. But she promises to let us come over, but always has an excuse. She works from home, so speaks to clients. However, the only person she allows contact with her, is her abuser, who she describes as a monster.
I know that she will only do something when she chooses, but I am desperately worried about her and the children, who are not in school, at the moment, and don't know if there is anything I can do.
