Husbands friends.

I agree with GrannyAnnie life is too short just be honest or you will be dancing round this forever.

As for getting the husbands to sort it out, well words fail me.

I can't be horrible to anyone, even if I don't like them. I'd say, that's very kind of you to invite me but it's not for me,thanks.
That way you're not being unkind.

My brother invite me to his 60 th birthday bash ( he lives in a different European country)) Luckily I'd thought about it and neither me or my dh wanted to go but felt we'd have to.when he asked I said We appreciated the invite but wouldn't be coming,it wasn't for us.
He was a bit taken aback and miffed but accepted it. I phoned on his birthday and hoped he had a lovely time.Tbh he showed me photos and it looked as I thought, not our sort of do.
Plus, it earnedme LOADS if brownie points with dh for refusing the invite!
I got sick of doing things I knew I wouldn't enjoy. No need to be unkind, just say it's not your thing. Good luck!

If you think she has an alternative agenda and isn't just trying to be nice then does it matter if you're less than polite now after several 'no thank yous' ?
'Its not my scene/thing' could work?
'Please stop asking me, its wearing ' ...??
Honesty can be the best policy.
I really wouldn't ask your husband to speak to her husband, we're not living in the 1920s....

No don’t ask your husband to speak to her husband about this, as it’s really childish

Trendynannie - they’re all a bit weird!

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