How About Some Good News?

coming up tp 50 years of marriage - have never thought about divorce - though murder often! We have been in lockdown together since the beginning of March and enjoyed every minute of it. We are not wealthy but very very rich.

Yes, we are very happy too, both strong minded characters and have some humdinger arguments now and again, but we support each other unconditionally,never thought of happiness signalling in fact never heard of it! I love to hear that people are happy

Mine did give me knickers once, when we were courting. They had a picture of a motorbike and said "Get something exciting between your legs". Had to hide them from my mother. Nothing so interesting since!

48 years for us married this December and we celebrated 50 years of being together last month. Could not have made a better choice. I too find it sad how many "grans" here are in unhappy marriages and know a great deal of my happiness is down to luck.

That’s so true MarieE if the press would let up on endless gloom and doom ( which they seem to revel in) people wouldn’t feel so generally depressed.
There are more things to celebrate than to denigrate in our country.

I blame the media, good news is seldom reported but I know of so many good marriages and acts of kindness in the community. They should be heard about and celebrated

Fabulous news maw. You sound so pleased.

Every life has its joys and it's tragedies. It's nice to hear how people have pulled through the sad times and I admire those who manage to stay married for life. I wish I had been so lucky but I made a bad choice first time round and not so sure this time either! But it's good to hear that it can be done!

Marvellous news Maw. Please though I have said my remark about signalling was tongue in cheek.....

merlotgran

The last thing we need on Gransnet is more doom and gloom threads. DH and I have been married for 52 yrs and there are times when you'd think we'd end up throttling eachother. After two terrible years though and DH's health still a bit dodgy, it's our togetherness that has seen us through.

Maw, I watched a repeat of Terry Wogan's programme about his foodie journey in a taxi. They visited the Royal Ballet School in Birmingham.

Good Luck to your grandson.

Thank you for pointing me towards that programme Merlot
I watched DGS ‘s final class of the year in one of those studios last year - I found it very exciting to be going in the Stage door.
But just on a point of detail, the young men were members of the Royal Ballet company, I think, not the school

MawB ?you must be so proud.

That's wonderful Maw

The last thing we need on Gransnet is more doom and gloom threads. DH and I have been married for 52 yrs and there are times when you'd think we'd end up throttling eachother. After two terrible years though and DH's health still a bit dodgy, it's our togetherness that has seen us through.

Maw, I watched a repeat of Terry Wogan's programme about his foodie journey in a taxi. They visited the Royal Ballet School in Birmingham.

Good Luck to your grandson.

I posted that we've been married 50 years and we get on well. My life is far from wonderful.

I think it is rather nice to share good news - except of course when it gets written off as “signalling”: or boasting.
I am for instance extremely chuffed that my DGS (10) has been offered a place on the Royal Ballet School Junior Associate programme.

It was just the pick me up I needed!

Maybe it is more to do with our personalities. My mother once accused me of being too much of a bloody pollyanna.

We have had awful times too. We have looked after 4 parents who have died, I had a missed abortion, our son had a stroke (aged 35) and various other awful things have happened, but we have pulled together because we are optimistic about the future.

I'm sorry some see this as a 'my life is wonderful' thread.

My life hasn't always been wonderful - I've lost a brother to suicide, and one to cancer, both in their thirties. We nursed my FiL through six years of illness, including three years of dementia before he died. My own DF is very ill and requires constant attention, and my DM needs a lot of support. My BiL has been very ill for ten years.

My life isn't wonderful, but my OH generally is. Apart from the times when he isn't . We have our ups and downs like most people, and I'm very grateful that over the years there have been more ups than downs. I may sound smug but I'm not - I've seen too much death and illness over the last ten years to think our situation won't ever change for the worse, so I enjoy it while I have it.

Many of the posts have made me laugh, like the papier-mache clown, so how can that be a bad thing?

Another one here happily married for 50+ years . I’ve been very lucky. Never had a present of knickers, pretty of otherwise though. Reluctant to go into more detail to preserve my anonymity and to avoid looking smug.

What whitewave said.

Oh I am so sorry to see your post eleothan

To my mind there has been little enough joy around over what now seems years, and I can’t see the harm in sharing joy and pleasure. That’s not to feel smug or satisfied, but the chance to share what we have that we treasure.

Please don’t think that there is no room in our happiness for empathy or sympathy, in fact I think we may well be emotionally secure and strong enough to be in a position to give as much support and help that is needed.

Really, I can't see the point of a "my life is wonderful" thread. In my view, if you are happy with your life and relationships that should be satisfaction enough and you shouldn't feel the need to advertise it.

But if people are unhappy and feeling stressed they probably need some sort of anonymous outlet through which they can express how they're feeling - and perhaps receive some advice and a little bit of sympathy.

Thank You, All.
In a while, we will express our sorrow for the family to them. Life is never the same afterwards. The tragedy brought us closer together as a couple and as a family, but we never forget.
We have had more than enough sorrow.
This is why we value our affection, and the happy times together, and look for joy.

That is so cruel Puzzled, heartbreaking for you, and your neighbour also.
It is not the order of life as we know it, to lose our children while we still live. ?

Puzzled that's so awful.

42 years of marriage for us. It’s not always easy, we take very traditional roles i.e. I cook and clean, he does DIY and plays golf a lot - but we have a good life and are blessed with loving family, friends and fairly good health.
Not wishing to boast as I know others have lost their beloved partners.