I feel very unhappy at the moment - tearful and not sleeping. It's about my relationship with my daughter but I don't know whether to talk directly about it to her, or just put up with it.
I've always had a problematic relationship with my mum, as I found her mood swings and controlling behaviour difficult. I have tried to not be that kind of mother, but don't know how to approach this with my dd without replicating the conversations I've had with my mum, which made the rift between us larger.
She lives a long way from us, so I can't choose the right time.
The problem is that I feel that she is pulling away from us. When we visit we try not to be invasive, as we appreciate they are tired with young children. We stay in a local hotel, and don't stay more than one night. I could deal with that, but what has upset me is that his family stayed recently, in the house, for several nights. When they were there, our gd stayed up late, which she never does when we're there.
There's several other things, but, ridiculous as it sounds, that is what has upset me more than anything. I feel we try our best, but will always be on the outside looking in.
Our dd is very loving, but on her terms. I just don't know how to deal with this, as I feel as though it's ruining my life.
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