Late 50’s over 60’s what exactly does your other half do round the house

I’m the mug who does it all and work. He hangs out washing and empties dishwasher when asked.

You lucky lucky ladies..... my husband gets up about 9 in morning.... gets his cereal and cup of tea...eats standing up in kitchen ., moves into the lounge ...sits in his armchair...turns on tv and watches until midnight/1am next day....He does NOTHING..... I cook....shop...wash up..... clean floors....clean bathroom.... clean shower room..... hoover every room.... do ALL gardening ..... do ALL repairs in or out of house....do ALL decorating .... deal with and employ any workmen that are needed.... he doesn’t answer the front door even.....he doesn’t bend to pick up the post ..... I have to get his prescriptions ..... i of course do ALL the ironing and put his clothes away or else they would in airing cupboard and he would just help himself from that!! If any of you think your husband can beat this excuse of a husband, please feel free to try!!

I think I should make Mr C a cuppa and give him a big kiss after reading some of these posts!

That'll worry him!!

Actually, I forgot the kiss, just gave him a

It did surprise him!

I do everything including decorating and gardening. I do the bins too and remind him to actually put them out on bin day.. i always check that hes done it as he often just doesn't see it needs doing. In turn, he washes my car!

I'll start with him:
He loads and empties the dishwasher but doesn't clean the dishwasher filter so I have to struggle to get it out of a half full dishwasher and rinse it.
Cutting the grass is 'his' job but he's only remembered to do it twice this year.
He organises the car insurance but will check each and every option with me before making a decision.
I do the rest. (Shopping, cooking, cleaning, garden, builders admin, other insurance/energy deals, finance, tidying/decluttering)
I used to do decorating and minor DIY I now use DH's money
to pay for professionals. Though I still re-mastic the shower and fix the odd broken thing.
DH works 37 hours a week I work 25 to 32. He earns 3 times as much as me.
So it's sort of fair plus I couldn't survive in a chaotic, dirty house eating pasta or something out a tin every night.

Oh and I put out the bins and do the recycling and wash the car!

and the laundry!

My DH sorts out the dishwasher but always requires praise for doing it! No-one ever praised me for doing all the household chores single handedly for years! Men! What are they like???!!!

I do think that many men need praise!
At least telling them they did a wonderful job means they'll probably do it again.

Of course as is usual on this forum, those women who so criticise their husbands and partners are always perfect in every aspect of their lives.

What a joke. ???

Not all men are as wonderful as you Grandad
You deserve a

Grandad we are not criticising, just telling the truth! And no, I don't think I'm perfect, far from it, and if my husband was a member of GN, I am sure he could let you know what my shortcomings are; but as he's not, you'll never get to know!

kittylester, sodapop, sorry ladies I missed your comments. The reason that I asked about permitting is because my wife felt uncomfortable about someone else doing our domestic chores. She did come round to it eventually though.

Shame on you Grandad1943, the ladies are not criticising they are simply listing all the domestic chores that they do. It should be down to everyone who lives in the home to do their share of cleaning and tidying, children too.

Spangler

kittylester, sodapop, sorry ladies I missed your comments. The reason that I asked about permitting is because my wife felt uncomfortable about someone else doing our domestic chores. She did come round to it eventually though.

Shame on you Grandad1943, the ladies are not criticising they are simply listing all the domestic chores that they do. It should be down to everyone who lives in the home to do their share of cleaning and tidying, children too.

In today's world where both partners work to maintain the household income, many men including myself take an equal share of the home maintenance including cooking, cleaning etc.

However, with the attitude of some that have made posts in this thread, I think that I would certainly not wish to carry out very much for them.

Indeed, I do not think I would be around very long to do anything anyway. ???

Well if your attitude is really that you do household chores “for them”, Grandad, then you’re right, you probably wouldn’t be around for long.

Maggiemaybe

Well if your attitude is really that you do household chores “for them”, Grandad, then you’re right, you probably wouldn’t be around for long.

Ha, ha, splitting hairs there Maggiemaybe. Please inform me how anyone should make address in regard to a group of people other than "them".

A throng of posters perhaps, or a gathering of the GN dissatisfied.?

Or perhaps it is just the misandry of some that once again has resurfaced. ???

I think you are mistaken gd1943. Lots of us have said how much we appreciate our DHs.

But, surely, housekeeping is for 'us' not 'them'.

It is an unfortunate fact of life that there are loads more women than men on gn, please spread the word among your friends.

When my dh retired he made an amazing discovery. Apparently I had been loading /unloading the dishwasher incorrectly, interesting but useful so one job off loaded.
The washing wasn’t hung out and folded correctly. Silly me, so another job handed over. Bedding and the changing of handed over (how sad). He also vacuums upstairs, cleans bathroom etc while I do downstairs. Gardening completely taken over for which I was grateful as he enjoys it and I dont. What do I do? I have taught myself modern technology which my dh is gradually taking to via an IPad I bought for his 80th birthday. I used to shop until lockdown and took on deliveries, I paint walls and doors though dh now joins in whereas I used to do most of it. I am an accomplished persuader of renewing things that would benefit us. I also use oils, acrylics and watercolours to paint the family, flowers which dh plants for me, holiday places, friends pets etc. In fact anything that is meaningful. Yes, retirement is lovely.

My husband was the eldest of eight children in a very traditional household. His sister's did most of the chores.?
We we got married, he hadn't a clue about running a house.
I was initially a stay at home mum, but when I decided to go back to teaching, which included more studying, he started to take over the chores.

Now seventy, he does a good deal in the house, due to my failing health. He irons, vacuums, does the supermarket run, DIY, the heavy garden work and a lot more.
The only thing I will not ask him to do, is cook. He is a terrible cook!! My children used to beg me, not to ask him to make dinner.?

We share everything else, especially financial matters.
I've trained him well.

kittylester

I think you are mistaken gd1943. Lots of us have said how much we appreciate our DHs.

But, surely, housekeeping is for 'us' not 'them'.

It is an unfortunate fact of life that there are loads more women than men on gn, please spread the word among your friends.

Yes many have stated how much they appreciate their husbands, but with others, they have used this thread as yet another man-hating and beating thread while they portray themselves as being absolutely perfect in every aspect of their lives. ??

gd1943, it could be that this is the only outlet these poor women get to complain about their overbearing or lazy husbands.

Try putting yourself in their place - they are not lucky enough to be married to someone like you.

Someone said Attendance Allowance is not means tested. But when I filled in the forms, because of state pension, I was not eligible. Is that wrong then?

LadyBella, I don't know if this would be helpful.

www.carersuk.org/images//Factsheets/2020-21_factsheets/Attendance_Allowance_April_2020-21.pdf