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You need to step back its not your call as already has been said he was his father before you came along an angry step mother is the last thing your husband or his son need to reconcile

Willow, there may be a reconciliation. I think you can give yourself permission to hope for a reconciliation.

I agreee with harrygran's comment! not your call!

I know exactly how you feel. My step daughter has done and said unbelievable things to her father over the past 16 years. I have always asked my husband what he feels and support him in his decisions. I give my opinions when asked by him. At the end of the day she is his child and he has to live with himself.

My sentiments too Eloethan.

Give them time and space, after all you don't know just what poison the sons birth mother has dripped into his ear about his dad!
Ex - wives can be manipulative, I know, my OH has one and she won't let their son have anything to do with his dad - the son is 44, weak and spineless and being bank rolled by his mother!

He may be a very brave young man - willing to accept that he made a mistake (possibly influenced by others). Of course you should give him a chance, support your husband in his decisions and welcome his son into your family.

Maybe it will work out well, maybe not - but an opportunity not to be missed.

As the second wife, you would say that PollyDolly. I bet the first wife is otherwise biased.

Alexa, I am not at all biased, more realistic and supportive; I was simply stating fact and pointing out to the OP what might be the case with her step son.