This is freaking me out - relative claiming she has second sight

Why would anyone want 5 bathrooms?
Sorry. I should take this more seriously and I understand that not everyone thinks as I do.
I shared a house once with a young woman who believed in the supernatural and had a priest come to the house and exorcise it because she kept seeing and feeling ghosts. I slept through.
Your relative may have come to terms with the death of her boyfriend by the Autumn and it could be fine. Is anyone really planning holidays?

Some people need to have a ‘special gift’ because they can’t muster any of the normal things that are indicators of success. I had a friend who had dropped out of uni because of illness, who never held down a permanent job, who found it very difficult to have relationships etc.

One summer, they suddenly discovered a ‘gift’ for water divining. They spent a whole holiday in a cottage in France criss-crossing a meadow with two bent coat hangers, marking each place where they twitched with a paper marker. After two weeks the whole meadow was covered with markers. I could have told them there was a lot of water under the meadow without using coat hangers - it was the floodplain of a river that ran alongside. But it made them feel a bit special for a few days, and did no harm.

I suppose one for each bedroom and one downstairs, don't they call loos 'bathrooms' in the States?

I think everyone has moved their holidays from a year ago, and is hanging on in hope that they might materialise this year. Have to wait and see. If they do come, quite apart from my banning any further predictions, how am I going to cope with such a seriously wealthy couple in our rather modest house? I certainly can't supply a "home theatre & music room, a boat house right on the lake (lots of steps down the slope to the little red shelter), 3 garages, and an accessory dwelling unit over the middle garage". It sounds like a film star's!

It seems certain that this relative is suffering from her recent bereavement. If you think you can help her through that then it will be good for her to visit, but if it is going to freak you out find an excuse to cancel.

If she does come try not to engage with her on the prediction thing - "that's interesting" or "I see" or something equally non-committal will be useful expressions to practice.

This all really depends on how good your relationship is.

B9exchange I wouldn’t worry - suspect the house and the boyfriend are about as real as the psychic abilities...

grannyRose the bereavement is so bad she’s found a new boyfriend to ‘make her better’ ?

Blimey you are ‘brave’ B9 , now you say the new boyfriend is coming with her, I wouldn’t entertain that in a million years bad enough having some distant relative you don’t really know (you ve only met her once) and she sounds mad as a fruitcake coming to stay, but now you say her new boyfriend is coming with her ....whoooooah ...they could be anybody.
I d find a solid reason to ‘uninvite’ her

Even if the boyfriend is wealthy it doesnt matter one jot if your home is more humble. It is the warmth of the welcome that is important and not material things

BlueBelle

grannyRose the bereavement is so bad she’s found a new boyfriend to ‘make her better’ ?

Blimey you are ‘brave’ B9 , now you say the new boyfriend is coming with her, I wouldn’t entertain that in a million years bad enough having some distant relative you don’t really know (you ve only met her once) and she sounds mad as a fruitcake coming to stay, but now you say her new boyfriend is coming with her ....whoooooah ...they could be anybody.
I d find a solid reason to ‘uninvite’ her

I agree with BlueBelle. Apart from the distant cousin, I would certainly not want some random new boyfriend coming to stay at my home. He could be anyone.

She sounds very strange.

We've been corresponding regularly for about 7 years now, and went out in 2015. She reported she had met the boyfriend in 2016 online, they were going to get married, she showed me photos of them, and we discussed all the wedding arrangements. Then boyfriend was diagnosed with ADHD and the wedding deferred for six months. When she discovered the drug problem she she kicked him out, but was heartbroken as she obviously loved him very much even though they hadn't been together more than 18 months. When he was found overdosed in his truck with severe brain damage due to lack of oxygen, she was heartbroken, and the problems he had given her seemed to be washed away. She spent a year driving around with his ashes distributing them at places she loved. All this time we were supporting each other with frequent emails, but she didn't mention the 'other world' until she met a medium at the end of 2019, who told her the boyfriend was her 'guardian angel'. I blame the medium!

Many mediums prey on the gullible and bereaved but you can’t blame anyone because you weren’t there and don’t really know what she was told so that’s pointless it doesn’t matter who was to blame does it ?
In your opening post you said you were freaked out and the thought of having her in your house made you uncomfortable yet now you are landed with not only her to freak you out but the addition of a completely unknown man who even she doesn’t know if she met him a month ago as your first post says He could be absolutely anyone

You have the perfect excuse of CoviD I would say nothing unless she brings it up then say everything re travelling is on hold Then I d forget about it

You talk about we and us so do you have a husband and what does he think to it all ?

I d keep her as a pen friend and leave her and her mess where she is

Fascinating! What fun! Sometimes things just happen - once or twice in decades of a lifetime chance just takes a hand.

Don't worry now, let things develop and make up your mind about the visit later - a good time to put things off.

She sounds rather interesting. Is she bringing he new partner?

Come March 1st - and no assassination - you will be able to see just how to proceed.

She’s not a medium!

Just tell her you cannot possibly have anyone to stay for the foreseeable future - which she should be able to see as even we can do that.

Just tell her you do not believe in premonitions and the like and if she is coming over to you she will have to stay 'grounded'

Can you talk to her face to face on the video Skype thing then you will be able to see this wonderful house. Ha Ha !! As my brother in Austria frequently gives me the "tour" of his place + I see the children in their rooms, playing in the garden etc. Then you will know if true statement about the house or not.

Say can't commit due to Covid19 plus Presume no flights from the U.S. Anyway.

I would probably be, as you say, not committal in my reply stating that we will hold back on any arrangements to visit at present due to the ever changing rules and law re Covid19.

Curious to know, has the new partner the same Christian name as the prediction indicated? There are lots of possibilities to explain what she has said, including grief, coincidence, fantasy. Not knowing an individual makes it difficult to make any realistic judgement on that.

I believe there is a good possibility that Trump will be "got at" in some way but I don't see in to the future. I like hearing these kind of stories and would certainly listen to what she says.

Dates for my Diary on gransnet so far include:
Feb : assassination
Mar: threat from outer space (another thread)

I await with interest but hopefully no one will get to me first before I know the outcome.

Last January I made my predictions. I do this every year for a laugh. It's surprising how many come true. I was doing so well until March ?

When you went there she 'gave us a lovely time, all seemed fine, and we continued to correspond'. Maybe you can put up with a bit of flakiness for a while and return the favour, current climate permitting? If they both come, book holiday accommodation somewhere near lots of places of interest for the duration, doesn't matter if that's small, so you won't have to worry about your home.

I don't believe in all that stuff. There's always an explanation, or sometimes things do really happen by coincidence. I would be wary. Some people do fantasise or simply make things up for a bit of drama. Of course it will be interesting to see about Trump. . . I had a friend who was told by a "medium" many years ago to be careful of fire because she had a strong feeling that she would die eventually by fire. (What an awful thing to say to someone!! I was appalled to hear that!) My friend actually worried about it for years and never forgot it. But she passed away a couple of years ago as a result of cancer. No fire involved.

I would ask her to ask dead boy what this weeks lottery numbers are.

The poor woman sounds quite unwell - she could be having a psychotic breakdown. It happened to someone I knew and she was quite convincing about all these strange things that were happening. She saw angels and talked to them and had all this money and was about to move into an enormous house - she actually ended up in hospital. I would bide my time and Covid is the perfect excuse for putting everything on hold. Good luck. Just btw if you see big houses advertised nowadays they often have more bathrooms than bedrooms - apparently the young are happy to share a bed but not a bathroom!

Did you ever see pictures of her with the first boyfriend? I’m wondering if he even existed - either she’s making things up or she’s being catfished repeatedly because she’s vulnerable. Are you sure she’s even related to you?!

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