How well do you get on with...

That made me LOL FarNorth.
Were they sent there years ago or was it their choice ?.

In our family "Outlaws" are not your child's in-laws. They are the unmarried partners of your children. I wish there were a word for the other set of in-laws; we get on well with our three.

DH (2nd) has no parents and very little contact with his adult children. Hubby (1st) parents were complete PITAs so I’m thankful not to have to deal with any now!

I’ve always had wonderful friendships with my 3 lots of outlaws. But am reeling at present as in December one of my sons lost his MIL to cancer, then last week my DD lost her MIL to cancer too. My other sons FIL now has early dementia and I’m just so sad and heartbroken by it all.

One DiLs parents are very rich, live in a totally different world, but have to say they are very approachable, always seem pleased and interested when we meet and most appropriately adore our son. Other DiL only now has her father DM died 7 years ago. Both parents lived a very parochial life wishing to inflict all with political views. DIls father still the same but we get on for the rare occasion we do meet. Another case of liking DS immensely.

We get on well with DIL's parents, they are lovely people & very easy to like! Our ex-SIL's parents were a different kettle of fish! His father was a domineering man who did his best to spoil the wedding & his mother was a timid, nervous little person in fear of her husband. We only met them on a handful of occasions through the 7 year marriage. SIL didn't show any of his father's traits - the marriage failed after several unsuccessful IVF attempts & he & DD drifted apart & divorced amicably. DD has now found her soul mate who is sadly an orphan, so no parents to befriend!

I never got to meet my Mother in Law or Father in Law, they had both passed away before I met my DH. The eldest Sister in law was the nearest that I had, and my Daughters have always thought of her as the nearest they had of a Grandma, as my own mother passed away when they were small toddlers, aged 7 months and 21 months respectively.

I knew my in-laws from my 1st Marriage, but seldom visited them, they were heavy smokers, their Lounge was a Nicotine stained Blue haze of smoke, and I suffer from Asthma, so needed to be in an environment with better quality Air.
They didn't visit us either, we were a smoke free zone, no ashtrays provided, and no smoking in the company of the children, if they really needed to smoke that much, they could take a walk up the garden to do.it!

I'm very lucky as I've got 2 DIL 's and 1 SIL and we get on well with all of their families, even going on holiday with them at times. My son died 11 years ago and I am still close to my DIL and see her and her parents, sisters etc regularly still. I've been very lucky with the families my children have married into.

I get on well with both my children's in laws. We have been on holiday with DD's in laws, stayed at there house and they have stayed with us. Also spent many a Christmas with them. Don't see so much of DS's in laws but when we do all is very friendly. Also friends on FB with both sets.

We have 5 sets of outlaws and, at a minimum, we try to be cordial but there are 3 sets who we find it more difficult to actually make friends with. It isn't on our part. One set of outlaws is very shy and really jealous of our lifestyle. She will go out of her way to sit apart from us (and everybody else) at gatherings so it probably isn't just us.
One of my DIL's has parents who are divorced and her father obviously dislikes women so I am persona non grata. Her Mum is pleasant but keeps herself to herself; I think she is quite shy.
I managed to fall out with my DIL's late mother before I'd even met her. Her daughter (who was 21) was staying with us for the weekend and fell ill so was unable to travel back the 250 miles home. In an effort to reassure the mother that the daughter wasn't swinging the lead and was definitely unwell, I caused high dudgeon. She insisted that she came home and got her husband to drive down to get her. In the morning, her daughter was sent home within minutes from work as too ill to be there. Our relationship never recovered. She had the most amazing way of looking through me whenever I spoke to her. She was the most ferocious woman and completely averse to any diplomacy whatsoever. I was speechless at the language down the phone whenever I had upset her...without ever having got a word out first!
My SIL had a very complicated childhood spending time in care. His late father was schizophrenic but seemed like a nice person. His mother is a very down trodden woman married to a paedophile. The stepfather pulled all the guests on my SIL's family at the wedding based on what he thought was a slight from his stepson. Nothing we said would convince them to stay and he insisted that all his family had to leave or he would make sure they suffered! It could have completely ruined our daughter's wedding and she has never forgiven them. Once he was convicted, she banned all contact with the stepfather so we don't really see the mother.
My other DIL has lovely parents who we have invited to our events and vice versa. Phew!

We get on well with our younger daughter’s in- laws when we see them, they live 200 miles away. We speak to our elder daughter’s when we see them but we have no relationship with them.

My FIL died before I met my DH. We lived with MIL when first married. She died from cancer just as we were thinking of moving to our own place. I got on very well with her, and was sad that she never met her first GC.
DD1 is divorced. I got on OK with her parents in law, but their son could do no wrong. DD keeps in touch for the GC’s sake, but they are now grown up, and drifting away from them. In-laws are more interested in the other GC and GGC.
I have a very good relationship with all the other In laws perhaps because they live in Australia and Peru! We do video chat quite often. though

Never got as far as in-laws with our 2, but remember being bemused that neither of our son's two long term female partners ever thought to introduce us to their families when we were visiting them in England although they met ours..in Scotland.....

Never got on very well with my husbands family and after he died I never heard from them again but often wonder how they all are.

Only one of our children is married. Met the in laws to be, the husband was a bit of a bragger, but the mother seemed really nice and thought we would get on.
After the wedding was announced we met up again. The dad ignored us, not sure why.
But the mother made it clear she was a bigger part of the couples life than me. I made the mistake of telling my child how I felt.
So now we are estranged.
Banned from their wedding.
I’d love to know what mother in law thinks.
I don’t blame her. I think my child thought he’d found a better family, so we were expendable.
I wish I’d never said a word, and just put up with it.

My Mum is very good friends with my Mother in law too. My Mum is young enough to to be her daughter (we breed young, they bred late) and in some ways my Mum has taken on the daughter in law role! My Mil often treats me like I am some daft kid

Daughter's ex in-laws are a weird couple. DD wasn't allowed in their house until after they were married and then she was never welcomed.
We met them once before the wedding and at the reception they and his mum spent the evening in an anti room. DD married for 10 yrs. We never saw them again after the wedding despite them living a 10 min walk away.
Yes, we did try.

Get on with both my sons' in-laws really well and we are now one big extended family. Both my DILs parents have always been very supportive of my boys - not always easy as both of them have had quite serious times in the past. In normal times we will all have meals out and celebrate birthdays and anniversaries together. I come from a big family and can't imagine not being happy to add more members. I believe it's very important for kids growing up to spend time with all family age groups. My DH was an only child, his parents and grandparents were too and he has always felt he missed out somehow.

I have the most adorable DiL and get on very well with her Mum and her Grandma. My DiL hasn’t seen her Dad since she was 8 and come to think of it I don’t even know his name.
My Mum, who was loved by everyone who knew her, didn’t get on very well with my MiL. She tried really hard and invited the out laws to many family occasions. This was never reciprocated though and Mum gave up.

I Loved my in laws and my husband loved my parents. We both called each other's parents 'mum and dad'. They were all loving and supportive and we saw them all frequently.

My poor DDL’s family are vile unfortunately. The DM is a narcissistic of the highest level and her DH is an enabler to her so my DDL has cut herself off from them and my DS and GDS have nothing to do with them either. Such a shame but they have caused us all terrible stress for the last 10 years so thank god they are out of our life at the moment. Hopefully it will stay that way as DDL, DS and DGS are a lot happier too. It’s so sad as it could have been so different but some people don’t appreciate family.

My parents and in laws always got on well. They lived too far apart to be close friends, but after FiL died and she lived close to us, my parents invited her to stay and they all enjoyed the week so much and we saw a close personal relationship building up. Truncated when DMiL died suddenly.

I think we all get on ok not that we saw much of our childrens inlaws but we were always cordial when we met for family occasions

Unfortunately one daughters inlaws were dead before they married.Other daughters mil passed when they hsd only been married 11 months,she was ok but hard work.Sons longterm girlfriends parents live in South Africa so never met them.

My son and his family live abroad and I get on so well with my new family over there. His Mil is lovely. I only met his in-laws the day before the wedding and they couldn’t have been more welcoming. Sadly Fil died a few years ago. My son used to spend an afternoon with him to give Mil a break. We used to drive along a coast road which was very therapeutic for her and it has become a thing I do on Google street view when I’m feeling down. When I went to stay with son I always spent a weekend or 2 with Mil and we have such a good time. I haven’t seen them in person for 2 years and I can’t wait to get back there. Thank goodness for FaceTime!