PS - get out NOW rather than later. A dear friend has a horribly moody, emotionally abusive husband who she suffered for 20+ years when the children were growing up, but then didn't leave because, deep down, she didn't believe she deserved any better, plus she blamed herself for the breakup of her first marriage (not true). BUT when she turned 60, she finally decided enough was enough. As she was putting together her Plan to Leave, he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She is now his Carer, has a 10x worse life, feels that there is no alternative but to stay and every time I see her (not often now) she deeply regrets not leaving sooner. Don't make the same mistake.