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Friendship not relationship offer

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Lucyloo12 Thu 15-Apr-21 16:03:56

I have got myself into a bit of a muddle. I befriended a gentleman who is 15 years older than me. We go walking and I thought we were friends, however he now wants more. I have been very clear that friendship is the only thing I want but he says he has feelings for me. He said I have been very nice to him, more than his late wife, and he interpreted this as me wanting more. Today he said he may as well die as he doesn't want a relationship with anyone else. This makes me feel sick. He is lonely and wants me to replace his wife, I'm beginning to feel he is becoming selfish. He wants me to fill the void in his life though has no interest in what I want, or in this case dont. I'm getting irritated now as he tries emotional blackmail. What on earth can I do to stop this. I tried to tactfully tell him I'm not interested and try to encourage him to join clubs, online dating etc but he is so insistent I'm the one. I hate it and don't know what to do. Any Ideas?

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effalump Wed 01-Sep-21 17:46:18

Men always want 'more'. They are biologically programmed to procreate. It is said that the male thinks about sex every six seconds! I don't know about that, it doesn't say much for his staying power. A friend of mine has a male gay couple as friends and she has the best friendship ever.

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Puzzled Fri 10-Sep-21 18:06:05

It may well be devastating for him if you break it off, but unless he is willing to be just good friends, it has to be.
He has read things into the situation that are not there, and may very well not be in the future.

So to avoid further heartache for both of you, it may be better to try to let him down lightly.

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