Husband becoming obsessed with much younger single neighbour

Thank you for your update, Bettinalove, I'm so sorry that things have not improved for you.

Please keep a bag prepared, with money, medication, toiletries, essential documents and a change of clothes, in case you find it necessary to leave in a hurry. Keep your car keys on your person. Keep your mobile charged.

You have the support of the majority of your children, I think your elder son will come round in time. They will get you through whatever lies ahead.

Sending you love and prayers, and wishing you well for the future. ???

What a nightmare situation for you.

Hithere put it very well.
You need to get legal advice ASAP.
So sad to hear how things have turned out for you. Please remember to take care of yourself as much as is possible in the circumstances.

Thanks for coming back bettina we ve all been so concerned for you
I think you need to get out the house as soon as able could you stay with one of your children for a decent break ?
Good advice about having everything ready ‘in case’ but as he is not that mobile I doubt if he will be able to harm you if you stay out of his way
If he continues his watching the lady next door she may well put a complaint in if it bothers her or if he goes any further in his obsession
I still think the man is ill did they ever do a brain scan, brain tumours can change people in very strange ways if they did do a brain scan and nothing abnormal then it’s a mystery if he has always been a decent husband in the past and you haven’t said anything to make it sound as if he was awful or a bad husband before I don’t think you would be so broken if he had behaved badly throughout your married life
Take care and keep talking to us hopefully we can all help keep your spirits up a tiny bit

Still following your sad story. All I can add is to agree with those who say be sure to have your own legal advisor.
And this thread has the positive side of warning we older people of yet another downside of old age.

ps and I agree with you Bluebell your man is ill wih some deterioration of old age.
I don't know how hospital tests can detect that.
They're not magicians or prophets.

I just wonder if your husband is really going to devorce you or is it just in his mind. I think your eldest boy is not really angry just upset that it has happened and dosnt know how to handle it.
Yes get legal advice.
Im so sorry after all this time your world has been turned upside down. Take care ?

Sorry meant divorce.

Thinking of you Bettina hoping the situation is getting resolved in some way and sending good wishes?

How are you Bettina if you have time do come back and tell us you have many people wondering about you and wishing you well

Bettina hoping you are ok.

Bettina, are you ok? Lots of Gransnetters are worried about you

Bettinalove,

I've read just about everything, definitely your updates and I'm feeling so bad for you.
If I knew you personally I'd be tempted to send you some flowers every so often, 'with love from a secret admirer', to see how he liked it on the other foot!!!
It's a pity this other lady hasn't put up a privacy fence.
I'd have stuck something to the window, like privacy screen, to stop his viewing, but that might make matters worse for you!!
If the house is sold - I'm assuming you own it - proceeds should be split down the middle and then you both go your own separate ways. I doubt he would want to sell, tho, so he'll have to buy you out!
I hope you and the lady are still friends.
Does he still message her? Maybe she should do something like inform the police that he's watching her and making her and her children uneasy!!

Bettinalove,
I wish you all the best, please keep us updated whenever possible!
Look after yourself and stand tall & smile whenever you leave the house!!!