I left an unbearable mental abuser of a husband and returned from the Republic of Ireland to the UK.
First thing I did was to take legal advice and my friend stored my prized possessions for me to collect later. What helped was that at the time we were moving from a large house to a much smaller one so some family furniture went back to the UK.
Sorted out the money I was owed from our joint account had a meeting with the bank manager who knew how things were. Arranged a banker’s draft for when the time came.
Decided what I wanted to take and what I could fit into my small car. As it happened this man was a drinker and late to bed.
About a week before the move I took money from the bank account and sent it to the UK. As soon as I knew the money was in my account in the UK, I was ready.
Early in the morning, I packed my car, went to my friends to pick up the rest of my stuff and drove across the border to Northern Ireland. Got on a ferry to Scotland.
Went to stay with my friend until accommodation could be sorted. It wasn’t a lot of money but enough to keep me going until I could find work.
It was the best thing I could have done for my mental health and well-being. This was at the third attempt as I had been persuaded to return on two occasions with empty promises.
Take your courage in both hands, check your legal position, make any arrangements that are needed and then go.