Gut feeling about DH?

Who?

What signs are you picking up ?

oh, I missed the word (there)

No

No....

Where is this coming from do you think?

Not me!!

What the heck’s DW

A woman at work was convinced that her husband was having an affair with his colleague - as she noticed that they stood 'too close together' at the bar in a pub. She knew him (and his body language) very well and she was absolutely right!

BlueBelle

What the heck’s DW

I take it that if DH is dear husband, then DW is dear wife!

Not me, I cannot comment on your situation though.

Jezra Trust your instincts.

If your gut is telling you something it’s probably right!
Don’t act hastily, give it time, gather the evidence & build the picture,
What happens after that is your choice.

Don’t act in haste but don’t be a mug either . Is there a mutual friend you could share your concerns with ? If you find and further evidence Get yourself some money put aside .and then get some legal advice .

Thanks all. Don’t want to reveal details as it would be outing.
As Hetty 58 said that wife knew her husband’s body language very well. Similarly I know my husband’s behaviour very well and that is making me suspicious.

Yes! Have a look on Mumsnet there'll be many more experienced wives there.

I had a friend who said hello to someone she knew as they passed her.
The husband didn't know the woman, but sort of awkwardly smiled at her.
Friend was absolutely convinced that something wasn't right.
They went away for the weekend, and my friend was told that she was being ridiculous, as he had done nothing at all to arouse suspicion, and she was causing an atmosphere in the home of the people they were staying with (who thought she was mad!)

They did split up a couple of years later, and guess what finally came to light?

He had been having an affair the whole time with the suspected person.

I’m an experienced wife. Same scenario Jezra. I confronted him but unfortunately, I was disadvantaged. He was in love with her and left me. Some very wise people said that I shouldn’t have confronted him (and her). I should gone with the flow and eventually their ‘love’ would have fizzled out. Well, they are still together after 20 years. So, don’t push them together as I did. Play the waiting game. One thing though, I hope you are aware of his financial situation. I was because I prepared his accounts. Good luck

Go with your gut feeling but don’t say anything until you have positive proof and you have your ducks in a row.

Yes I’ve had that same gut feeling, with his colleague, was proven right.

Yes.
Not with wives of friends but with work colleagues, and I was right.
I am always amazed when marriages break up and the wife claims to have had no idea her husband was having an affair; to me it indicates a lack of awareness in their relationship.
Gut instinct is based on unconscious observation of things like body language and changes in expression.

I knew someone who suspected something wasn't quite right when she noticed at a dinner party that her husband and the wife of someone else were studiously ignoring each other and not making any eye contact - normally there would be banter between everyone.

The husband then bought himself some new underpants, not usual for him to do this. He was having an affair and they divorced some time later.

An old school friend of mine was devastated when her father had an affair with a neighbour, well into his late middle-age. Friend's mother had remarked earlier that dad had started to have his hair cut and blow-dried instead of the usual visit to the barbers, and he bought new underpants!

All I can say is if your gut is telling you something I'd lean towards believing it. Its the last really primal instinct we have left and its surprising how often listening to it is the right way to go.

husband then bought himself some new underpants Always a red flag!

Trust your instincts

Beware the underpants!!