Msida, there is a lot going on here, the poster is perfectly right in placing boundaries, she has her grandchikdren two days a week so she’s hardly being difficult. I was the grandma that always said yes to babysitting, cancelling our own arrangements at times. I wish I hadn’t, the demands became more and in the end when I wasn’t useful I was estranged.
Edge27, I feel for you and hope you continue not to be blackmailed, that’s what it amounts to, you do this or I will stop you doing that. If the occasion was so important why so last minute?
I personally wouldn’t go to court for contact, it would in many cases cause irreparable damage, but it’s down to the individual.
New house and a sloping garden