Smacking children

I smacked my children very occasionally, when I was desperate and exhausted, and very much wish I hadn’t. I am ashamed it.

I was never smacked. My mother said she smacked my brother occasionally, but only because she had no idea how to cope with him. Like me, she was ashamed of it. We saw it as failure.

My grandchildren are never smacked.

How can hitting a child ever be right?

Iam64 ?

Also the fact it was legal does not make it any less damaging. Many laws come have come in later in the years. That doesn't make the crimes any less awful for the victims.

CrazyH, yes it was reading that thread that prompted me to start this one. I didn’t want to post there, didn’t want to add to the OPs distress
Sumner love ?

The point about prisons is well made. The majority of people in prison didn’t come from anti smacking households

It’s never OK.

"My eldest says she was abused because I made her eat cabbage even when she cried!"

That is actually very damaging and something else that has been extensively looked into. It can increase the risks of Eating disorders and is somewhat abusive.

To reverse it how would you feel if I used my power to force you to eat something against your will.

I imagine a lot of our generation smacked our children from time to time, and I imagine that a lot of us, myself included, wish they hadn’t.
I have a clear image of one of my cousins having her knickers pulled down, and her bottom smacked really hard, can’t remember what she did.

Yes this has been touched on by the other thread but it is an interesting point. I know I did smack but infrequently (4 children) and more out of fright when they did something stupidly dangerous ,road ignorance for example.
My eldest says she was abused because I made her eat cabbage even when she cried!

Science has made it very clear that smacking is not OK.

The way some go on here there was never a naughty child or adult in prison! Couldn't have been as a good old fashioned assaulted stopped all of that.

I mean again science says the opposite but let's not dwell on that!

Iam64, there’s a similar veined discussion titled grown up children accuse me……

According to some - you can always tell the children who weren’t smacked in public.

So, you must have been a hell raiser and just pretending you were well behaved. ???