When my children were very young, I did a ten week course in a group, led by a psychotherapist, on parenting skills.
It was fascinating and informative, and several key aspects of what we learned have influenced how I lead my life and the choices I make ever since.
One of the sessions was about our responsibilities as parents, and that when a baby is born, he or she is 100% dependent on us.
Our task is to enable the child to become totally independent by the age of 18, or 21, so that they are able to embrace life as independent adults.
They owe us nothing.
I feel that many family problems arise when this is not the case.
Another vital aspect of the course was about realising what was actually responsibility in any situation, and what wasn't. It isn't always easy to discern, but sometimes just being aware of this can provide understanding and insight when boundaries get blurred.