Am I antisocial or just weird?

Hmm, I’ve never lived alone but I do like my own space.
I am sociable but even if I am enjoying time with friends or family I sometimes have to retreat for some time on my own.
I can happily cope with close family staying in my house or to stay with them. I do not stay at friends houses or ask them to stay at mine. It doesn’t seem to cause a problem.
I lead a busy life but am also happy to spend time on my own.

Bluebelle you could be right regarding living with or married to **** ! I'm just loving and needing the no stress life ❤

I have lived on my own for many years now and love it.
I enjoy time spent with others but would not want to share my home with anyone else now.

I've always lived alone since leaving University nearly 50 years ago. Good grief, fifty.

I enjoy a bit of company but I love to come home.

In January I moved into a block of 34 supported living flats, and it's the best thing I've done. A communal lunch is included in the rent, and I enjoy the meeting and mingling. And then I love to come back and shut the flat door. Bliss.

Another here who lives alone and wouldn't have it any other way now. I love family and friends coming to visit, they can even stay a night or two if they want to; but I heave a sigh of relief when they leave.

I feel the same. Ive always lived alone apart from a brief marriage in my late 20s. Never wanted children. Had boyfriends since but never tempted to live with them. The relationships fizzled out because they were looking for something more.

I did a lot of travelling when I was younger but now I hate to have to mix with people. Ive got workmen coming into my home soon to do essential jobs but I cant wait for it to be over. Polite as they are they are not guests and my home is not the same with anyone else in it.

My experience is that when you get to a certain age you go one one of two directions:-

You become very lonely - probably because you had a partner and they have died or it broke up. So you make real efforts to speak to people, even strangers like the postman, parcel delivery etc.

You are your own person and dont really like people around you. In that case you really cannot be bothersd with them most of the time. You tolerate visitors but are glad when they go.

This latter is how I feel. You can be alone without being lonely.

biglouise ah yes I forgot to mention that I don't like workmen in my house either. I like to socialise outside my home. Happy days ?

When I was married I felt sorry for ppl that lived alone and now I’m divorced and my sons both married and living with their families and I’m on my own. I can spread out in my bed with out being snorted out, picking up dirty undies or having that bar of chocolate. My sons keep saying mum you should find yourself a nice man instead of being on your own. They don’t understand I don’t mind being on my own. I can go or do what I want without having to think about anyone but myself. Don’t get me wrong only time I felt lonely was in lockdown but think everyone did then. So no I’m happy single

Personally I am antisocial and very happy to be so, I don't like people and can quite happily be described as a miserable old bag, ? though I make an exception for my grandchildren ?

I’m alway desperate to get home when I’ve put or away .
And I have a friend who has just moved so I visit and have to stay over. She’s welcoming but I hate it. I love to wake up in my own bed.

I live with my DH, when he worked he was often away from home and I like my own company. When we moved to a very popular area I told my DH I was not running a B&B.
DD's and their family I don't mind,BIL and family I can tolerate for a night no more.
I have lost numerous friends through not taking the hint for them to stay and never wanted to go back and visit them.
I like my own space and my own company and have always put it down to being an only one.
I see nothing wrong in doing what is right for yourself.
If I am left alone I will move to somewhere with more facilities nearby. Having had DH ill for a few weeks I realise how much I rely on him for Dr's, prescriptions etc. We don't even have a small shop in the village.
This feeling was amplified a few weeks ago when we visited DH she has bought a townhouse with all facilities a walking distance. If I run out of milk it is a fourteen-mile round trip.
Do what makes YOU happy ,there is nothing wrong in pleasing yourself that is what everyone else is doing only in a different way to you.

I wouldn't say never, but since I was diagnosed (Asperger's) I realise why I like to be alone so much. I do like to get out and be involved in social activities, but then I need a day off to recover.

Madwoman11

When I was younger my fear was to have to live alone, but I have now lived by myself for several years and know I could never live with anyone again. I don't even like people staying overnight.
I do have a good social life but my home is my space. I do have some health problems and I'm in my late sixties. Does anyone else feel the same?

Yes, yes, yes! After years of looking after and pandering to others needs it’s great to be able to please myself and do what I want

Yes I totally identify with this unfortunately my house is like Clapham junction and not on a strike day!
I have to factor in quiet times, sometimes literally in a darkened room!

I love being on my own and now that my husband has retired I savour the moments I get even more. You’re not weird at all, I think it’s a good thing to enjoy solitude x

I love living alone since my divorce, it's just me and the dog. My friends are all wishing I could meet someone and can't understand why in my mid 50s I would want to be in my own for the rest of my days. I had an op in April and my sister and her dog came to stay and I couldn't cope. I was thankful in one way that I had her there as I was fainting a lot, but she had the TV on constantly and left her stuff lying about everywhere. I couldn't wait until she went back home again and I got the house back to myself. I will never live with anyone again.

I felt the same way but when my husband died in February 2021 but now I feel the same as you. I had my grand daughter with me for 6 weeks and I was so glad when she went home. I feel a bit guilty as I have two spare bedrooms and felt I should have a Ukranian as my neighbours have. But I don't want to risk a stranger in my home on my own.

Thank you ladies for making me feel better about being on my own! I have a chronic illness that means I am in bed 90% of my life and have a husband, but spend so much time on my own. 4years ago my husband had a stroke so we have separate rooms, and I guilty enjoy my time on my own….it’s been a revelation to me to find I enjoy my own company, so to know a lot of you live very happily alone actually makes me feel better. I miss people dreadfully but have carers in so I do socialise and of course with my husband. I am hugely relieved….

Amen!!!

I,m the same .In my late 60;s My husband died 8 years ago and I’ve lived alone since . I don’t think I could ever live with someone again .I’ve got to used to beeing independent .

I’m lonely sometimes and have found my thyroid level is down, all hormones
There are many people types afterall no wrong or right but for me who is social person I know it’s my hormones when want to tuck away from the world, first started as a teenager at pmt!
Flippin hormones aye
Need space soMetimes but not for long

Oh I pray for the day when my only responsibility is whether I eat today or just stay in bed. I’ve never lived alone …. but I did have a six week taste of it recently …and I loved it…. I can’t wait.

So you're a residential loner, I don't see the problem?

I feel exactly the same - my home is my space and I don't really like it invaded. A very few friends are exceptions to this and are welcome.

I have never lived alone, I would love it - no one to say 'you read too much' or 'why aren't you weeding?'