Am I antisocial or just weird?

I was the same after being widowed following 40 yrs of marriage. So I went on line, kissed a lot of frogs then found a good compromise. Not madly in love but happily living with my best friend

You could be talking about me. When my partner was alive I too worried about being alone but now I am alone I quite enjoy my own space and to be able to do what I want when I want

To be pedantic, you're not anti-social at all, that is a totally different (and more worrying trait!) you are just un-social!

I have been married for 37 years this year and would find the house quiet without someone with me - although by myself I might get away with washing engine parts of my classic car in the dishwasher - which I dare not do now :-)

It can be lonely in a marriage.
A double bed can be a sad lonely place as one gets older.
I don’t like visitors, I’m sociable but please don’t come to my home.
I never thought I’d say this.

I enjoy living alone. Been divorced since 1988 and brought up my son (now 45) to be useful around the house, cooking and cleaning. Like others have said, my time and space is my own, no fighting over the tv remote, what and when to eat. No-one hogging the bathroom. Made friends when away on holidays. I belong to several groups for socialising. HAppy with my lot.

I couldn’t stand the thought of living with another person. I can go days without seeing another human being yet I’ve never felt lonely in my life. I was lucky enough to have discovered a well known card game that I was good at. Playing it on line with people from all over the world. Getting to know people quite well, especially the ones who drank in the evenings and were a delight to someone like me who wanted to win! Lockdown went past with my hardly noticing it due to always having a book to read or a game to play. I found myself getting quite a little nest egg for my old age. Come off it, old age? I’m closer to 80 than 70 so am I trying to kid myself I’m young?
Suddenly I got bored with card playing and stopped. Still read books though.
As a Chariot user ( mobility scooter) and car driver, I indulge myself every now and then.
Mainly in seaside resorts where cheap b&b places abound. Have to make certain they have somewhere I can top up my chariots batteries though. A problem car drivers too will have to face more and more as electric cars become the norm. I’m never happier than with a candy floss in one hand and good quality ice cream cornet in the other, parked on a quiet part of a seaside pier on my chariot in a warm breeze.
I don’t need to share my happiness with anyone. They might prefer that ghastly slimy pretend ice cream made with powder. !!!!!!!!!!!

Enjoying being alone and living alone is not antisocial.
We're all different.
I enjoy being alone. I have found since covid that I quite enjoy doing things alone, perfectly content. And can have company if I feel like it. My husband is the same.
There are no rules, just enjoy being yourself.

Madwoman11 I’m exactly the same! I have many lovely friends and a daughter whom I cherish when I see her about 2 or 3 times a month. Two cats! I still work full time, 67 soon

I was far far more lonely within a marriage and the utter peace of closing my own front door that first time I was alone will never leave me

I do. I don't mind the odd family member or friend stopping for a bit. I do like to see them leave too lol.

Not weird at all I love living alone peace
and quiet eating and sleeping when I want I enjoy family and friends visiting but I'm happy with my own company and wouldn't want to change it.

Have lived on my own for many years now and totally happy with it. Friends and family come and stay and I visit them, but enjoy the relaxed feeling of being just me again! Could make an exception for my daughter and grandson though. AND it would be useful to have someone here to put the bins out on a Thursday!

Not sure how many men feel like this though !

you are not weird or anti-social, i was married for 18 years and lost my husband when i was 39, i met someone a year later and i decided i did not want to get married or live together full time, we saw each other a lot at the start but ended up spending every weekend together - fri/mon and that suited us both, we stayed like that for the next 18 years until he died last year. i have now decided at the age of almost 59 that i won't have another partner, i am happy on my own, i seldom get lonely, people think i am weird as i do not have friends other than family and a couple of neighbours, i don't think i could go through loosing another husband or partner that i had loved for all those years. if you are happy on your own and like living alone then stay that way.

Ditto Ditto Ditto BlueBelle Smile

I’m 68 live alone 2 divorces no friends love it. People exhaust me just me and my dog.

Mallin, you sound lovely !?

Oh yes. I am totally with you.

Thank you all for your great comments. Some great points made. Be happy and content everyone ?

I’d quite like to go on a coach trip to the highlands of Scotland on my own but won’t book a trip in case people insist on speaking to me and in case they ask me to sit with them for meals .
I prefer to have peace to watch the scenery or to read a book on my kindle .
I know I’m weird

I have a partner but we live thirty miles apart. That way,l have the pleasure of my own company...and his, too.
We both have children, ex-partners, annoying family members etc etc.
This way ,it is easier to manage everything,clear who is paying and ,best of all,he is pleased to see me and always grateful for what l do.
Maybe if either of us becomes infirm we would live together - but l think we might manage another decade as we are( we are mid-sixties)
There is nothing wrong with enjoying your own peace and quiet especially after raising two sons alone!

Thisismyname1953

I’d quite like to go on a coach trip to the highlands of Scotland on my own but won’t book a trip in case people insist on speaking to me and in case they ask me to sit with them for meals .
I prefer to have peace to watch the scenery or to read a book on my kindle .
I know I’m weird

I am going on a coach trip to Wales on the 6th of July and I don’t like mixing with other people but I just very politely decline any of their offers for me to join them…

I feel the same Madwoman - my home is my sanctuary and while I love visitors I don't want to feel invaded and I certainly wouldn't want to share it.

I feel embarrassed as I have not invited my 2 neighbours round for the afternoon. I have visited them 4 times and enjoyed the afternoon but I cannot bear the thought of them coming here! What if they sit on for hours, how do I get rid of them? I took a gift the last time and hope that makes up for it. I never phone anyone either, is that odd?

I know what you mean Kircubbin. When you visit you are in control of how long the visit lasts.
I would need to have a contingency plan, in case they stay too long.
I hate chatting on the phone and rarely ring people apart from my children. I don't really care if it's odd. I text/email mostly. Sometimes I write letters, I love doing that.

I do enjoy chatting at my art groups.

I don't think there's a law against being odd or weird.