I know this has been discussed before, but now it has affected us and I would love to hear from others who have "survived" this pain...
Our son and DiL live in London with their baby daughter. We live about 4 hours away and were looking to a long life of being in close connection. We have a good relationship!
DiL is from Australia originally.
They were about to exchange contracts on a house (we had sent them a huge sum of money to help with that, as we did with our other child).
Anyway 2 days ago they informed us, literally OUT OF THE BLUE, that they are moving to Australia and plan to buy a beautiful house there (pointing out the ability to do so at a fraction of the cost of London).
This is mostly because our DiL misses her family and friends and has been very miserable, verging on depressed. We did not realize it was that bad (they are not big on sharing with us) but had an inkling. Any suggestions or advice have always been rejected - another thing that has been very painful for us.
Of course we understand that it's their decision, and of course she wants to be near her family and friends, but we are reeling from the shock and both my DH and I are feeling so so sad and already understand the devastating impact this will have on our ability to remain connected to them.
So my question is: how to recover quickly from the shock? How to behave towards them now?
During that first video conversation when my son told us, I was sobbing (very unlike me) and I think he is really upset with me and my reaction.
My DH has not been able to engage with them at all, and has retreated into his hole of pain and hurt. He suffers from depression, and this has just been devastating for him (for me too, but I am better able to cope). He says things like "that's it, we will never see them again... I am not flying to Australia..." etc.
I know it's their life, their decision - no question, so I am just looking for any supportive comments and help on how to regroup and be positive about all of this...
Thanks so much
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