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My New Chapter

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Sue110 Thu 14-Jul-22 21:49:42

This message is to anyone feeling stuck in an abusive, miserable or unhappy relationship.
During the Jubilee weekend, my husband flew into an unprovoked rage, I felt frightened for my own safety. His rage, was the final straw for me after suffering years of emotional abuse, so I finally left my husband of 20 years. I’m 67. It was the hardest yet best decision I’ve ever made.
I just wanted to say that if you’re desperately unhappy, like I was but worried about the consequences of leaving, please don’t be. You deserve to feel joyous, free & happy.
Since I left he’s continually trying to tempt me back with promises that he’s changed, he hasn’t.
He says he can’t live without me, he’ll have to.
He says I’m his soulmate, I know I’m not.
He’s now getting therapy, but it’s too late.
Lying here in bed on my own, is so peaceful & overwhelmingly liberating; this is my new chapter.

If you’re partner is abusive, or if you’re relationship leaves you feeling frightened, anxious, sad, miserable & lonely, please think about leaving this person & start your own new chapter too. It really is worth it.

Mancjules Thu 14-Jul-22 21:55:08

Well done and enjoy your new adventure!

BlueBelle Thu 14-Jul-22 21:59:41

Yes well done
I ll never forget the peace and joy of shutting my own front door the first night on my own

ElaineI Thu 14-Jul-22 22:04:55

Very well done xxxx

Grannmarie Thu 14-Jul-22 22:06:37

Wishing you well for your future, Sue110.flowers

MissAdventure Thu 14-Jul-22 22:10:01

Wishing you all the very best of peaceful, contented times.
I reckon you have more than earned them.
flowers

crazyH Thu 14-Jul-22 22:12:01

Well done Sue10 - all the best for future flowers

SueDonim Thu 14-Jul-22 22:12:06

That’s a very positive message to come out of a negative situation, Sue. Best wishes for a happy future! sunshine

Grandmabatty Thu 14-Jul-22 22:13:00

Good for you! Best wishes to you.

MissAdventure Thu 14-Jul-22 22:13:55

I loved what you said about "not being vindictive" CrazyH grin

NotSpaghetti Thu 14-Jul-22 22:20:19

Well done you!
Please keep being proud of yourself even if some days it's difficult.
What a positive move you have made.
Congratulations! ??

FarNorth Thu 14-Jul-22 22:20:24

That's a wonderful outcome for you Sue110 and very good of you to make an encouraging post for others in similar situations.
Enjoy your new freedom !

Smileless2012 Thu 14-Jul-22 22:30:06

Wow Sue what a courageous thing to do. Good for you and may the rest of your life be happy, content and safeflowers.

Sweetpeasue Thu 14-Jul-22 22:36:00

Very best wishes to youSue110

Hollyhock1 Thu 14-Jul-22 22:42:08

Sending best wishes for a bright future.

welbeck Thu 14-Jul-22 22:47:13

onward and upward.

nandad Thu 14-Jul-22 22:51:58

Sue, brave girl. Your new life can now start with you knowing how strong you are. I wish you lots of happiness.

crazyH Thu 14-Jul-22 22:52:43

MissA ?

Catterygirl Thu 14-Jul-22 23:05:48

So well done for making the move. Did you have accommodation to move into? I find estate agents very unsympathetic to pensioners.

rafichagran Thu 14-Jul-22 23:11:41

Pleased for you.

sodapop Fri 15-Jul-22 08:46:32

Very brave decision Sue110 enjoy your new life to the full. Like BlueBelle I remember the pleasure of closing my own front door and having a peaceful life.

Redhead56 Fri 15-Jul-22 09:18:43

Well done I ended an abusive marriage years ago and my only regret was putting up with it as long as I did. But you live and learn I am very happy for you ?

MacCavity2 Fri 15-Jul-22 09:39:45

Wonderful positive post and encouragement for many living in misery. Marriage can be a very lonely place but being on your own has a lot more dignity than living with a controlling brute.

Sago Fri 15-Jul-22 09:43:48

Well done, here’s to a happy future!??

glammanana Fri 15-Jul-22 09:50:17

Well done Sue110 for getting your life back, enjoy your new life you deserve it.flowers