My New Chapter

Well done and thanks for posting! Enjoy your new chapter!

What a wonderful post and hopefully you will inspire others. Life is too short to be unhappy.

Well done!! I wish you could talk to our niece!

Well done! All power to you, you will never look back.
As I told my soon to be ex husband when he pleaded with me to return ” If you can’t live without me, why aren’t you dead?

Well done! You make it sound so easy……but it isn’t though is it. Especially not financially unless you are well off.

Well done Sue keep your resolve and stay away. Here's to a happier future.

I'm so happy for you!

Hope you are doing OK?

Well done Sue10 in creating a happy future for yourself ?

I could have written your post Sue110 14 years ago,and felt exactly as you do today.
Good for you,have a happy life.

A very well done to you. The peace of mind will be fantastic! No one has to put up with this kind of behaviour and remember Leopards never change their spots! I was in an abusive marriage. Beatings and mental stuff for longer than I care to mention. Infact I am ashamed of the number of years I put up with it. In the end I was scared stiff of him and my weight never got over 7st! I was skin and bones. I walked out and never went back and that was over 30 years ago. You owe him nothing but you owe yourself a life. Live it to the full and I raise a glass to you but please promise me you will never go back. He can cry all he wants and hope he does but just keep away. Good luck!

I am so happy for you Sue110. Do you have support around you? Have you seen a solicitor? You don't need to answer just concerned you have people around you who will put you first.Have a wonderful day.x

Poppyred

Well done! You make it sound so easy……but it isn’t though is it. Especially not financially unless you are well off.

I think the point is that, despite the difficulties, it is so much easier to deal with when you aren't dealing with toxic behaviour. Most problems are surmountable, it just takes courage to get to the point where you can see that. There are resources out there for abused women. LEA's can lend deposits, they can help find private accommodation, benefits can be claimed to help with rent, etc. I have never met an abused woman who didn't see more problems than solutions, particularly where money is concerned, when they are being worn down by their partner but once they've gone, the vast majority find life easier to deal with. I walked away with debts up to my eyeballs whilst I was a pregnant, single parent. I was able to make arrangements with my creditors so I was able to get back on my feet.

Well done, Sue110, you're an inspiration.

Well done Sue, you have done the hardest bit, I wish you well. I hope you don’t get tempted back, he won’t change. Onwards and upwards, keep us posted as to how you are doing.?

I totally agree. I left my verbally abusive partner last year and moved to a new town. It’s the best thing I’ve done in years, it hasn’t been easy but a year down the line life is good and beginning to make new friends. Dating is off the agenda think it’s important to be happily independent .

I am struggling with my daughter in law. We have had several “incidents”, none of which I was at fault for, but until this last one, I always “fell on the sword”. But this last one was provoked by a ridiculous rant by her brother on a political topic (transgender rights). I simply asked him “what if” question and he completely lost it. I had no clue that my question would trigger such an angry outburst. My daughter in law blames me for him leaving the party (my granddaughters first birthday) and has refused to talk to me. I finally had to ask her to stop sending me angry texts. I’m at a loss as to how to proceed.

Millertime it would be a good idea to start your own thread on this as you'll get more replies that way.

I’m new here. I’ll see if I can figure that out!

I’m new as of 20 minutes ago. Definitely need advice. I’ll try to figure out how to move it. Thank you.

I'm so happy for you!!! Best to you and your new life, may it always be as peaceful and happy as it is right now

Millertime
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All the best !

Well done, Sue110! Very best wishes for your new life. I’ve been divorced from an abusive husband for nearly 5 years now and my life is so peaceful. As for him, he’s now his current wife’s problem; from what I hear, he’s already started the abuse. The saying ‘Leopards don’t change their spots’ is so true. I’m now considering further study - perhaps a PhD - just for me.

Sue I remember your posts up to when you finally made the leap. So pleased it's worked for you and well done!

Inspirational..I, like others, can understand how hard the final leaving must be. Sadly there are loads of people who financially can't walk away but huge respect to you.

Sue congratulationson leaving. I do hope you enjoy your new life and find comfort in friends and activities you have not been able to enjoy before.

Brilliant news, Sue! Please take time for looking after yourself, relaxing, and thinking about what you want next. Wishing you every happiness as you go forward with your new life.