Annoyed But Need Tact

GrammyGrammy

I think you are very blessed to have a 60 year old son who helps you a lot around the house and garden. Do you think he exists to serve you? Did you specify exactly what you would prefer for each plant? No, you let him do it without interruption so that you could be unhappy. You are being unbelievable. What do you do for him?

Wow!!!! That’s a bit harsh!!!!

Bijou

My garden is mainly shrubs and because it is difficult to find real gardeners have always had a problem since I had to give up gardening myself seven years ago. Latest so called gardener just attacked all the shrubs with a hedge trimmer so they are all round shapes. I can no longer get out into the garden unless someone tales me in the wheelchair.

Bijou I remember when MIL could no longer manage her garden, we weren't near enough to help so she found a lovely older couple who came to help; they were very reasonable.
His idea of pruning was to use a hedge trimmer and slice the tops off shrubs so they were all uniform and flat-topped!

They were so nice she never said anything ?

Welbeck, yes, I did make a similar complaint last year. Some of the advice I have read here has been helpful notably Callistemon's and I think my problem has gone away.

Hello
I'm curious....Do you ever say thank you to Your son after all he is not young himself but takes time out of his day to help You ?

I agree with Callistimon21 sometimes bushes if heavily pruned bounce back much better so wait n see. At least your son helps you

Callistemon21

I thought our weigelia was dying but, if it wasn't, DD just finished it off with a good pruning the other day. It's looking worse still but maybe I'll leave it until spring.

Our weigela was enormous so I cut it down to about a third of its height. This year, it's coming back beautifully.

I think it's a man thing.

My heart sinks when I see my DH with a pair of secateurs in his hand. It's even worse when he gets the hedge trimmers out.

He 'prunes' everything in sight whether it needs it or not. I end up following him around ordering - yes, ordering - him to leave my plants alone!!!

I have considered hiding the secateurs and hedge trimmers but I do actually need him to cut the hedge from time to time. He just doesn't know where to stop

DaisyDaisyDaisy, a good point, and Yes, I do very much so. My son is helpful and kind to everybody and deserves to be thanked and appreciated and most people do so.

As far as I’m concerned pyracanthas are weeds . They grow ridiculously fast . The school behind my mothers bungalow decided to plant it along the fence . It took over the gardens of all the bungalows and we used to get cut to ribbons trying to control it . In the end we all complained to environmental health who forced the school to remove it . There was already a nine foot metal fence in place so I don’t know they planted it in the first place !

Blinko

Callistemon21

I thought our weigelia was dying but, if it wasn't, DD just finished it off with a good pruning the other day. It's looking worse still but maybe I'll leave it until spring.

Our weigela was enormous so I cut it down to about a third of its height. This year, it's coming back beautifully.

Oh, thank you, Blinko ?

Grammygrammy, I have just read your post in which you scold me rather badly and without justification. Please don't do this in future.