We have been married for 38 years and our marriage is solid except that my husband does not care about intimacy. He smokes and cannot get aroused. He has tried pills and they work, it's just that he has no desire whatsoever which I have accepted. He is not a womanizer or interested at all. He never goes out without me and just works and comes home to me. He is loving in every other way just his libido has vanished. His health is fine and is on no medications. I just feel that this is not normal in a relationship and that in time I am going to resent him. He does not wish to quit the habit as he tried once and justifies smoking by saying that it calms him down. Something I will never understand as I don't smoke. Is intimacy after years of marriage overrated ? In my case it's the male who is not willing.
I've got another 'keen'... Ouch!