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Freeloading nephew

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Greyleader Sun 04-Sept-22 00:52:08

Have a 46 year old nephew who visits at Christmas. We have always welcomed him even though housing is tight. At retirement we moved into a 3 bead room townhome and with our children, this makes 12 people. Since our retirement, our children take turns paying for dinner at least once per 7 day visit. Our nephew has never offered.

Recently, we paid for a bucket list vacation for our children. One child mentioned our trip to nephew who managed to be in the same area at the same time and included himself for each meal without any reciprocation. This increased our expenses quite a bit more than what we planned on.

How do we handle this? He and his wife have good jobs and would seem to have the means to contribute.

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Chardy Sun 04-Sept-22 16:47:47

When we were skint young teachers, we used to each put a given amount into the pot, if we went for a drink or a meal (rather than rotate who pays and the 'I paid last time').

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Callistemon21 Sun 04-Sept-22 17:55:11

I am uncomfortable about leaving him out of Christmas as we are his only family; but have already let him know Christmas this year isn’t going to work.

Like V3ra* I assumed he was alone but he has a wife so he has a family. Does his wife have extended family? Do they not want to visit her family at Christmas?

As you say you are his only family, does he see himself as an honorary child of yours?

If he does, that's lovely but he needs to be treated like the other adult children ie asked contribute to the expenses.

Do they all come and stay for 7 days over Christmas?
Goodness! You're brave!

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sodapop Sun 04-Sept-22 18:16:03

Thank you welbeck why can't people just put that.

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welbeck Sun 04-Sept-22 20:58:49

i think they've been playing away over on MN...

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sodapop Sun 04-Sept-22 21:11:37

grin welbeck

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Floradora9 Sun 04-Sept-22 21:29:31

I would say if you want to join us it will cost so much and we need the money now to budget for the day . No paying up no Christmas .Surely everyone knows how tight things are going to be.

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