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So petty of me in the great scheme of things but....

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LRavenscroft Fri 16-Sep-22 17:41:53

Just spent the afternoon having tea with three old friends who I have only seen three times since Covid lockdown and I came away feeling totally depressed. No one even bothered to ask how I was or let me get in a word edgeway and when it came to pay one paid for the other two and left me out. Not that I wanted her to pay for me but it was done with a flourish of I'll pay for you two and not you. So, my decision on this very petty matter is not to make myself available anymore. There is a world in turmoil, our Queen has passed away and we are facing a stormy winter. I am worth more than being in a group like this. I hasten to add that I have several other sets of friends who are a delight to spend time with. Life is too short.

avitorl Sat 17-Sep-22 17:25:07

You are right to ignore them in the future. I certainly found out who are really my friends during the lock down period and those who had just been using me as their social secretary for years.I have nothing to do with the latter now and feel happier for it.

LRavenscroft Sun 18-Sep-22 10:14:34

Thank you, everyone for your messages of support. We are all worthy of being treated with respect and it is up to us to make the right choices for ourselves with whom we socialise.

LRavenscroft Tue 20-Sep-22 14:52:26

# Update - Great news! I took myself off to the the village hall coffee morning and got chatting to two delightful ladies who have invited me to the flower arranging group. Also chatted to another lady and her husband who are on the local village flower festival committee and they have asked me to be an active member of the group because of my interest in gardening. The point of this update - it is never too late to launch forth and seek new adventures. I came home feeling very happy and nothing like my encounter with my two old friends who were so mean to me the other day. Seek out what suits you. You are worth it!

Baggs Tue 20-Sep-22 14:56:50

That's good news, ravenscroft.

Greenfinch Tue 20-Sep-22 16:48:26

Well done ravenscroft

JaneJudge Tue 20-Sep-22 17:56:46

That is lovely smile well done for going

Blossoming Tue 20-Sep-22 18:10:45

Well done LRavenscroft so glad you made the effort smile

HowVeryDareYou Tue 20-Sep-22 18:15:17

It's not petty at all. Your "friends" don't sound very pleasant.

V3ra Tue 20-Sep-22 18:15:26

That's great news. Well done for taking that first step and going to the coffee morning ☕

Davida1968 Thu 22-Sep-22 15:12:19

That's great to hear, Ravenscroft. Wishing you a happy time with the new group.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 22-Sep-22 15:15:23

Well done. I’m sure your new friends will be much nicer and more thoughtful than the old ones. You’re going to be busy!

Bird40 Thu 29-Sep-22 14:26:03

Yuck. How rude and how horrible of them.
You're worth far more.
Don't waste any more time with them x