Driving- does it affect your relationship?

nadateturbe

Lathyrus it depends on your definition of "good".

I guess one measure of good is not causing accidents, which doesn’t necessarily mean not being involved in one?.Another would be not relying on other drivers to compensate for poor driving.

Both fast and slow hesitant drivers are guilty of those two.

What would your criteria be for “good” driving??

A driver whose passenger feels safe isn't necessarily a good driver.
But a skilful driver is not always a good driver.
Being good involves more than just good driving skills. It's about being a considerate person whilst behind the wheel.

I lost confidence driving on motorways I don’t like the speed. When we go anywhere for a trip or to our daughters my DH drives. He always sets up the speed limiter and the sat nav but he doesn’t need too. He knows the journey off by heart and he never ever speeds it’s become a habit.
So we are driving along listening to the Aussie guy on the sat nav giving directions it drives me mad. If I say anything my DH overreacts and we end up having a stupid argument. He is stubborn and set in his ways and obviously likes a routine.

I don't understand. How is a driver not a good one if her passengers feel safe?

I have been a passenger in cars where I haven't felt safe and the drivers were definitely not good.
You can drive fast, if the conditions are right, or slow but my definition of a good driver is one whose passengers feel and are safe.
Being overconfident or nervous are not good characteristics.
Some bus drivers are awful.
I have had to complain twice recently when the driver started up before his elderly passengers were seated.

Being rude and impatient to other road users is too common nowadays.
I hope none of you or your partners are guilty of that.

How is a driver not a good one if her passengers feel safe?
Grammaretto you can feel safe and not actually be safe.
Quote from your last post "my definition of a good driver is one whose passengers feel and are safe."
Overconfident I agree is not a good characteristic. But you can be made to feel nervous by the driver.

I suppose I had in my mind one particular friend who is not at all confident as a driver. Because of her “careful” driving she is actually a hazard. Things like braking sharply on the motorway when a car is joining from a slip road, overtaking a tractor on a country road slowly,

She wouldn’t feel safe when I accelerated and overtook the tractor in seconds, or when I continued at a constant speed on the motorway.

She drives down the central lane of the motorway at her 50 ish speed because then she doesn’t have to move from the slow lane to overtake, which she doesn’t feel is a safe thing to do.

She would only feel safe if I drove like her. So a passenger feeling safe isn’t really a valid measure of good driving.

It's a guide though. My DM was a nervous driver. In the 1950s, a widow in her 30s when it was rare to be a woman driver, she passed her test after 8 lessons all she could afford and drove to work in central London!

As soon as we, her 3 DC could drive she literally took a back seat.
Perhaps more of us, including the men, should be more like her.

My DFiL was still drove in his 90s. But he was very scary.

I have just bought myself a car because I was fed up with being controlled by husband. HE drove me to where I wanted to go and picked me up again, I often missed out on stopping for a cup of coffee because he was picking me up! I feel his driving is not as good as it was but he hates any criticism. Now I have freedom to use my own car.

Enjoy your freedom Carenza123.
You will love having your own car!

No problems with us both been driving for years but DH is more confident on complicated motorway journeys. He took an Advanced Driving Course with the police some years ago so I am happy to hand over the keys for some trips - also i can have a nap.