A romantic proposal of marriage.

I had 3, none of them what I’d call romantic!
One was by letter, and it was never on the cards.

One was from a chap I thought I was fairly casually dating when future dh was working abroad, who said more than once ‘I will marry you.’
Friends told me I’d better watch out or one day I’d wake up married to him, but it was never going to happen.

Even dh’s wasn’t a bit romantic. He was due any day to return to his job in the Gulf and there was no way the country would give me the then required No Objection Certificate if we weren’t married. I suspect that the (at the time) pretty dire food in the bachelors’ mess was another reason!

No ring, he thought ‘getting engaged’ was desperately uncool, he just said the word and we set a date.

He did give me a lovely ring right after the birth of dd2, though, which meant a great deal more to me.
50 years next year! He’s not a bad old bugger really.

Grannybags

My DH proposed in bed after sex! We were 'living in sin' as it was called back then. Never had a engagement ring and my wedding ring was £8 from Portobello Road.

Last year we celebrated 50 years!

Well, well Grannybags my engagement ring also came from Portobello Road -a band of 5 opals, costing all of £14 (there’s posh) in 1969.
I won’t comment on where he proposed but it was the person not the proposal which counted!

My husband proposed to me and I said yes. We've been married 54 years this year. Ups and downs obviously. When we had been married about three years, a friend told me he was in love with me (he also told my husband who was furious understandably). He asked me to go away with him. Obviously I didn't although he was incredibly lovely.

I prevaricated for a long time with my first proposal as I knew it wasn’t right.
My second was a very sexy Italian that I met on holiday and I am not sure he was serious.
Third time lucky and we have been together for 57 years!

I accepted my 1st one, then called it off as I thought I was too young. I then declined a 2nd one from another guy and finally accepted a 3rd proposal in my parents lounge which I accepted. He had a ring which was huge and not what I would of chosen at all, plus my dad was fuming as he hadn't asked his permission like the others. The marriage was a disaster, I left him and I have had one date since then and just decided it's not for me, I don't trust anyone any more.

I was getting divorced and had two little children. I met a friend I had not seen for some years.
He proposed to me on holiday on one knee presenting a beautiful engagement ring.
We did plan to marry in a couple of years but three months later we were married twenty seven years ago.
This marriage life has been good although after my divorce I swore I wouldn't marry again. Life is full of surprises.

I have been proposed to 3 times (I am boasting)
Me too, kittylester 🙂

The first was a kind of acceptance that we'd get married when he returned from GVSO but we grew apart Regrets? I have a few. It was my fault we split though.

The second - romantic but I realised he would have been very controlling.

The third - not a very romantic proposal. But we're still here 😀

Ive had two proposals.

The first was in Morocco aged 20 when a very good looking Moroccan with whom Id fallen in love proposed to me. Fortunately I saw sense once I returned home and saw it for the holiday crush it was.

Later my (ex) husband to be said in a matter of fact way "Shall we get married?". Not at all romantic and that didnt work out either. No ones fault. We divorced by mutual consent and I stll hear from him.

I should never have married anyone. Far too strong minded and independent.

I was engaged at 19, but can`t actually remember a proposal. We split up a few months later.
Then after going out with my hubby to be for 3 weeks, he told me he was going to marry me. We married a few months later, and it lasted for just over 53 years before he died.
As for the OP, I`d have accepted the first one, I`m a sucker for romance!

Never been proposed to, I did marry my lovely husband 40 years ago. After 18 months dating I said to him shall we get married and he said OK - very unromantic.

But we were very happy until his death 5 months ago.🥲

My DH proposed in bed after sex! We were 'living in sin' as it was called back then. Never had a engagement ring and my wedding ring was £8 from Portobello Road.

Last year we celebrated 50 years!

I turned down mr i’s suggestion we get married. I’d done it once, didn’t enjoy it and feared the institution might spoil our happy life. A year later, he accepted my suggestion we get married. We had lived together 2 years by then. We would have celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary this year 💖💙

Just the one for me. DH said he would marry me 1 week after we went out for the first time. We’ve been married 52 years now.

I have had three too. Turned down the first two, I was flattered, but not in love.
Then DH, slightly tipsy told me under a lamp post, three months after we met, that he would dance at my wedding.
I said YES. I knew he was the one, even before I went out with him. I thought he would never ask me out and had actually given up!

In the hothouse of a University Botanical Garden.
Well, it was both warm and free - essential for impoverished students😂

Reader, I married him

DH went down one one knee in a crowded shopping precinct in Chartres to put a ring on my finger, which was later substituted for a proper engagement ring. (and I did say yes!)

I dont necessarily associate romance with marriage. Love has many shapes and forms.

First time I proposed. Ended amicably after 28 years. It was practical, we'd been living together for 11 years with a son and both wanted to keep each other safe should one of us get ill or die financially and legally protect son, at the time it was the only way pension wise.

Second time he did at home in the kitchen and turned out to be coercive abuser, still extracting myself after 11 years.

An affair in between.

I won't get married again. I believe in lasting love for some and not for others. But I do still want a significant other, but do not want to live with anyone again after number 2. Very cautious and not trusting easily.

But never say never: how can we know what is to come?

However at GN ages, there is usually family involved who have complex feelings - protectiveness, sometimes concerns on money/inheritance as to actual marriage. Times have changed greatly.

As regards to O/P, number 2. More fun.

Twice, once when quite young from romantic hippy type boyfriend, who seemed to think we could live on fresh air in his parents Welsh hillside holiday cottage. Not for me!
Second, late on a romantic evening, didn’t do the one knee thing and I chose my own ring. Still going strong!

The only proposal I ever had was from my ex when he was very drunk one New Year. Like kittylester I told him the next day that I’d let him off because he was so drunk. He never proposed again but we were total soul mates back then and marriage was inevitable. I did get a bit upset once when a work colleague kept flashing her engagement ( we all worked at the same place) ring and he made me a cardboard ring after work and presented it to me. I seem to remember my current partner proposing many years ago ( I’d actually forgotten about it) but in my mind I’ll always be married to the man I was with for over thirty years who is the father of our children.

Been married 45 years happy and still going. Nothing romantic with the proposal just sitting in a pub and he just said’ shall we get engaged? I said’ ok then’ be3n. Ore romantic as time went on😂😂😂

After my divorce I had four marriage proposals over the years. Once bitten, twice shy, so never took the plunge again.

My first proposal was when we were both 7, it had been a two year love affair. We ‘got married’ in the playground at school, with an audience of the rest of the class (no teachers were involved), with real cherry blossom as confetti, complete with the little sticks. It didn’t last - but he is now married to my sister!

Second time lucky for me.

I think you accepted the second one.

I have been proposed to 3 times (I am boasting) I accepted the first very casual one at the local bowling alley. Then discovered that he wasn't the faithful type.

Didn't accept no 2. My birthday is just after Christmas and he didn't buy me a Christmas present as he couldn't afford both (he actually could) My birthday/Christmas present was a big box of chocolates.

The third one was a month after DH and I met. It was while sitting on the floor in someone's lounge after a Burn's supper. DH was the worse for wear and I assumed he would forget but he rang me first thing the next morning to ask again. 53 years ago now.

gulligranny

My most romantic proposal was from Mr. G - on one knee beside Niagara Falls on the Canadian side. Not so romantic was then having to help him to his feet (he was 67 at the time!).

Oh! I think that's lovely gullygranny to get down on one knee.