Suggestion how to deal with unprovoked abuse

Having lived in a abused relationship myself for over 25yrs my advice would be leave don’t make excuses for his behaviour it might have being accepted yrs ago but not now it’s not love is not hurting someone and having dropped you 25miles from home that is controlling behaviour go to your doctors and contact police and ask them for help. You deserve better and you are worth more than what he is showing you

One way to help to protect yourself may be to identify what sort of trigger sets him off.

Has he a big loss of self esteem?

Shortbread. How are you? Where have you spent the past day? We all hope that you have found somewhere safe to stay and someone to talk to who knows you both.

Thinking of you shortbread and hoping that everything is ok. Do come back and update us - we’re all worried and hoping you’re safe x

How are you? This is an awful situation to be put in.
Has this ever happened before. Has it been esculating, more frequent verbal attacks etc before this?
Please do get some advice from a solicitor.
I want to say leave the house but I appreciate that this might make it difficult if you decide to divorce. Do you any friends that he could stay with or any mutual friends that you could talk to about this?
Please lean on someone so that you're not on your own
Weather this is a symptom of illness on his part, is irrelevant when it comes to your safety❤️
Could you take a holiday somewhere for a week or so away from him?x

Hithere

Call the police, make a report, get a lawyer and leave

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I e had a similar escalation of unprovoked rage
I’ve spoken with Gp and will get further social advise from a team member however all this takes time
I’m still not sure if it is dementia or similar starting up ( family history of ) or just ageing rage and frustrations boiling over
I agree it’s very tough to know what to do and my sympathies are with you
I was shocked by a similar outburst
I think Refuge etc can help you define what’s happening
It’s important to keep records and also as previously said get financial/legal advise

I hope you’re ok Shortbread and that you have kept yourself out of harm’s way since you posted yesterday. Your OH sounds volatile and unpredictable, and you are at risk if you stay at home. Don’t try to face this alone, inexplicable rages are more than ups and downs, and now you’ve been physically assaulted and abandoned 25 miles from home - it’s not acceptable is it? Don’t keep it to yourself, there is help out there.

Are you both at home together now? If so, I think you should leave immediately. You are at risk.

Shortbread - how are you ?

Just a note to say I'm thinking of you Shortbread and hoping you are safe.