My son's father and I are grandparents to E. who's now 20 months old. We have been divorced for 16 years and are very good friends (having known each other - married or not for almost our whole lives). The issue at stake here is that the ex and my son's father is not allowed to see E. The DIL has had a few run-ins with him and she also doesn't like the way Dad (my son's father) treats her husband. Along with this, she has a "few" problems of her own. All this being said, the ex is missing out on the many many milestones and occasions that have come up. I send him pictures and videos. While this is all well and good, he still is missing out on seeing E. up close and personal.
I feel like she will eventually "smother" the child by not allowing him (when he understands more of the world around him and sees the various relationships in his life) to make his own opinion about his grandfather. It is NOT for her to try and control it.
My son is in the middle of all of it and is almost at his wit's end (he has started seeing someone who hopefully will suggest ways to cope.)
Any suggestions as to how I can "help" her "see" the repercussions of her actions?
Barry Humphries..(dame Edna everage) ITV 9pm
Good Morning Bank Holiday Monday 29th May 2023