Hi , does anyone have any Ukrainian guests?
We took a lovely young couple with a toddler back in December.
We expected to host for 6m in which time they would seek work and their own accommodation.
At 6m they told us they were applying to join family in the USA.
The wife works from home in a job she's had in Ukraine. He hasn't worked except for 5 weeks labouring in the spring. He does no domestic chores ,child care or anything much, as far as I can tell.
Despite letting them use our 2nd car they hardly ever go out and have made no attempt to join in the local community. They have even refused to join Ukrainian support group. They went once to the toddler group I arranged ( and went with them)
They are always in our home. It is getting suffocating.
Now we are told they messed up the US application and have started again. They may hear from that " next week or in months "
They also told me they have suspended active search for a flat lest they incur financial loss( never mind our financial costs hosting them ! Our fuel bills trebled and are no where near covered by the£350 thank you payment)
If refused entry to the US ,then they will search for a flat.
I feel quite despondent.
I do not wish to see them suffering. They have been through a lot, coming from Mariiupol. They are very nice....but I would like my home back ..especially as our youngest is returning home in 2024(as part of her university course to work at a local hospital ) so we need a room .
I am beginning to feel we are being taken advantage of and our kindness abused.
It is sounding as if they have settled in for ever .
Does anyone have thoughts or adviceon how to gently ask them to leave?
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