I married a loving, easy going man almost 7 years ago and moved to be with him. A few months into the marriage he showed a different side and during a silly disagreement told me I had to move out and became quite verbally abusive. He quickly calmed down, apologised and explained his first wife had been physically abusive and it brought back bad memories. 2 years ago we had an argument over something stupid like the housework and he hit me, afterwards saying I hit him first (untrue). Some months later during another argument, he physically put me out of the house, ripping my t-shirt and bruising me. I called the police and he was arrested and kept overnight. I didn't make a statement as he would have lost his job. Thankfully all has been good since and I think it gave him a bit of a wake up call.
BUT recently he has been "difficult", if I ask him to do simple things like put the dishwasher on, he will say No, then make out he was just joking.
It happened this evening, I asked why he does it and he says he has every right to say No. He's gone off to bed some time ago.
To be totally honest I would prefer to leave but the house is in his name, I don't earn enough to rent a place on my own and we recently borrowed quite alot of money for home improvements, thinking we could retire in a few years and everything would be done. I don't have any friends or family here. Feeling quite lost.
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