Good grief was this totally inappropriate?

Obviously knew UTIs

I think if you haven't heard from him since, a safety check is appropriate.
I'd definately call the police and ask if they can see if he's safe and well.

Does he have any children that you could talk to privately? Maybe he has a medical condition that he hasn't told you about,which may explain his behaviour,and just for the record,there are many different forms of dementia,and not all of them,result in sexual conversations,

Whatever the reason, you deserve better. Leave it at that and move on. Best of luck.

Yes move on if you find out he’s ok but make sure he is first

I wouldn't feel I could ever trust him again, whatever the reasons, medical or otherwise.
We had a genteel gentleman ( normally) who came in the library where I worked, and most Monday mornings for a while he rang between 9-9:30am and told us what he was doing to himself( masturbating). He often used to take out a series of books called Black Lace Romances( you catch my drift from this.) We recognised his voice, told him to behave and put the phone down immediately .I couldn't stop him coming in the library as such, and although we knew it was him,we also knew he was on his own most weekends and together with the books he was reading we concluded this must have been disturbing the balance of his mind. Eventually he stopped this behaviour- but I never left any staff alone with him, we remained polite but were all relieved when he left the premises.I spoke to the local policeman at one point who said the chap also rang the dry cleaners and travel agents around 9:30 am and the officer had gone and had a word with him. He stopped the phone calls soon after I believe.
Not nice, don't get involved again OP - please.

Ladies thank you, your contributions have been overwhelmingly and I’m so grateful for your support
I categorically know he was not suffering from a diabetic based incident or suffering any form of dementia. I have checked with his neighbours and he is fine. I am 99% certain he had been drinking heavily late into the night and this was the early morning result.
I will go and see him and tell him upon a lot of reflection I have decided I can no longer support him or be his friend.
So desperately sad
Thank you all again x

why go and see him ??
just cut him off.
or if you really think you want to say something to him, do it by text/email.
then block.

Oh goodness, how awful. If it was 9am, was he drunk from the night before? If he remembers it I am sure he would also be mortified, but it could be a sign of dimenture.
I think I would ask him if he remembers the phone call he made and if so, sadly, I think explain how I felt, and end the friendship.
I am so sorry this happened to you.

That was hurtful! People used to make excuses for drunks behaving badly - "it's the booze talking" etc. In fact, booze, drugs, whatever it is - that's when people become their true selves. If you think someone is your friend, but that friend hurts, offends, or even abuses you, Stop it right there! Let go of your responsibility to do anything. Hanging the phone up is the clearest message. You did that. Enough is enough. Do Nothing (and that means, no calls, no second-guessing, including feeling any guilt). Leave him to his own devices. DO NOT GET DRAWN IN. Living with an alcoholic is enough penance for anyone, I know about that. Take care. Shift your thinking, if you feel you need to respond, don't bother. Consider the phone hangup Your last word. He'll find someone else to help him out.

Well, that sounds like a great move. See, you did the right thing, regardless, from where I am sitting. Take care,
kind lady.

He will draw you in if you visit him. He'll play the victim and may even cry. I don't know why you would visit someone who was so offensive.

You know him and we don’t! It may be that he has really fancied you for a time but has bottled up it up - then he has made a fool of himself after too much to drink! Perhaps he now regrets it bitterly and is too embarrassed to speak to you.

Only you can tell if this is the sign of something really bad about him- or if this was a very unfortunate drunken show of affection! You need to listen to your own instincts in this- and maybe discuss it with him. If you don’t feel you can discuss it with him then that maybe says something about the relationship in the first place!

Felicity53

Ladies thank you, your contributions have been overwhelmingly and I’m so grateful for your support
I categorically know he was not suffering from a diabetic based incident or suffering any form of dementia. I have checked with his neighbours and he is fine. I am 99% certain he had been drinking heavily late into the night and this was the early morning result.
I will go and see him and tell him upon a lot of reflection I have decided I can no longer support him or be his friend.
So desperately sad
Thank you all again x

OP, please don't go and see him. Write a note if you must and block his number. Be careful opening your door too, make sure all doors are locked.

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Felicity53

Ladies thank you, your contributions have been overwhelmingly and I’m so grateful for your support
I categorically know he was not suffering from a diabetic based incident or suffering any form of dementia. I have checked with his neighbours and he is fine. I am 99% certain he had been drinking heavily late into the night and this was the early morning result.
I will go and see him and tell him upon a lot of reflection I have decided I can no longer support him or be his friend.
So desperately sad
Thank you all again x

OP, please don't go and see him. Write a note if you must and block his number. Be careful opening your door too, make sure all doors are locked.

I agree. Now you know it wasn't due to medical problems, take care.

Just phone him and make sure he understands.
He might well be feeling ashamed now but be careful.

One lesson in life I have learnt is not to make excuses for people and not to compromise regarding 'friendships'
You are worth more than that and the friendship will never be the same again.
I suspect he is feeling very embarrassed but that's his problem.
Time to cut and run .

Don’t go to his house to terminate the friendship PLEASE! Tell him by text or email. I behaved in a compassionate (I thought) way towards a man whose feelings for me I did not reciprocate. It resulted in the most horrendous ordeal for myself, the details of which I will not dwell on. Sufficient to say I have learned my lesson. I now put myself and my own well-being first in all relationships, apart from those with my family. I personally find it very hard to trust anyone these days, sad though it is to say.

I think, Felicity53, that it would be safer for you if you didn’t go to his house to see him, but rather that you either wrote him a letter or sent a text (probably a letter) explaining how you feel and the reasons for your decision. My worry is that if you go to his home, you don’t know how he will react to your words, and you will be alone with him. Put your safety first, avoid being in his presence (unless you have someone with you). It’s sad that it has come to this, but I think you need to be careful.

What a shame. So sorry for this. As we dont know or understand your relationship with him, the fact that you needed advice is telling me that you are not comfortable with his behaviour and it has changed how you feel about him. Its now going to be very awkward. Does he know where you live?

A shame but that sounds like the end of it to me. It would be for me,anyway.

Over stepped the mark! Once said it can't be unsaid and you won't feel comfortable with him now. Silly man has just ruined a nice friendship due to drink. Sadly time to walk away.

Drunk or not (no excuse), he didn’t consider your feelings when he said those things to you on the phone and, embarrassed or not, hasn’t been considerate enough to apologise to you since. As you’ve heard that he’s ok, leave it at that and definitely don’t visit him. He isn’t the friend you thought he was.

Run away! Always listen to your inner self. Run, don't walk, run away.

My father in law suffered from dementia and his behaviour turned into something we would never have imagined. The filter disappears! Cursing, grabbing the nurses in appropriately and the onset happened so quickly 🤦‍♀️ Please DO NOT go to see him. Text him or call him but don’t be alone with him! Be safe, there’s no going back from what you’ve heard 😳

Wise to run!!!
Also, perhaps he wasn't drunk but on drugs.

I am relieved to know it wasn't a medical matter - for myself I would have always felt guilty for not checking but you have.

I would suggest taking no active initiative at all, and definitely Don't go to his house. I would continue to maintain radio silence i.e. Ghost him. If he rings and you choose to answer, tell him that you will have no more to do with him, and stick to it.

As so many others have said, even if it was the drink talking, you don't need someone that drunk and that inappropriate in your life. I don't think alcohol makes people say things they don't mean, it just makes them less inhibited about vocalizing what they do mean.

Ugh. I'm sorry that he's damaged what had seemed to be a lovely friendship.