Good grief was this totally inappropriate?

Keep away from him, the time has come to end your friendship and he could become a danger to you .
I notice there was no declaring of undying love and affection, just the graphic stuff. It's a red light, walk away, sad as it is, while you still can.

You heard via neighbours he is fine, not from him along with a sincere apology.

There are many ways to tell someone the friendship is over, why visit him when he hasn’t been on touch with you?

Personally, I would never want to be in his company again.

If he has been harbouring these thoughts about you and finally expressed them to you, I would be worried about what sort ofperson he really is.. they were not gentle, romantic longings..
in fact he made you feel defiled.. I would probably send him a letter saying that whilst you appreciated his company in the past, in the light of what has been revealedin this phone call, that you no longer wish to see him.. I don't think I would visit him..

As others have said cut all contact, up to you whether you give him the reason why.
However I think you should expect it is highly likely you will hear from him again and it’s how you put a stop to this that’s the real problem.
Do you have a son or daughter that can support you over this?
Normally most situations are mostly one persons fault and a bit the other persons but in your situation you are totally blameless. You don’t need this nonsense in your life.
Alcohol is no excuse for bad behaviour

Are you absolutely sure it was him? You read about phones being corrupted and fake calls being made. It sounds a bit odd to be making a booty call at 9am! I would check it actually was him before you cut off contact!

From what you have said this sounds very out of character but even if you get an apology you should avoid being on your own with him - keep in a group if he is around - and decide if you just want to block him.

Run

Be careful he doesn't start to stalk you. I was listening to Sheila Fogerty on LBC this pm. She has been stalked in the past and devoted an hour to it. One poor lady was being stalked by a neighbour. She was in her 70s.

I agree with others about moving on regardless of cause. But I would also be concerned about a medical cause, especially as if this was totally out of character.
If you haven't seen him since, or if you have and he has acted like it never happened I would be suspicious of a medical cause, but not for you to sort out.
Most other medical causes have been mentioned but motor neurone disease can have a dementia like component (rare) which, if present, will manifest itself first as inhibition/confrontation/ personality changes, long before any limb deficit takes hold.

In your heart you must know what needs to happen. Cut all contact and block.

I had a friend. He was older, polite and so smart. And a great sense of humor. Silly me thought he genuinely wanted my friendship. Then came the text that I won't even begin to describe. I was in shock. I told him I could not believe her did that. He explained to me, very clearly, that men absolutely are not interested in have female 'friends'. I still find that hard to believe. And it hurt very badly to realize that I have no qualities, (other than three or four 🤭), that would make me a valued friend. That is so sad.

Why not start you own thread exhaustgranny this is a older thread