Husband Sleeping Late

My DH is similar and also has restlesleg syndrome for which he is prescribed pramipexole. He is on alot of medications so its hard to tell which is a side effect of another . I walk the dog in the morning and meet my friends for coffee. I enjoy having the mornings to myself . We make any appointments for the afternoon and he always cooks the evening meal.

Wow,so many different responses to this . My Husband is currently off of work due to a work not health related incident .He is 67 & se,I retired working ( when at work);4 days a week in his current role.
In his previous role he did shift work for many years .
Now unless he is physically at work he never wants to get up early at any time of the year . I am normally 99% of the time first one to wake ,even when he is working , I will wake him with a coffee . His stock response will always be “ I’ll get up in 10 mins / I’m just having a 10 min sleep 💤
I really don’t understand as he’s slept all night but would sleep for hours more if I didn’t wake him constantly.
This is summer or winter ,on holiday or at home . I feel especially in Summer & on holidays thats he’s wasting the day .
And before I get the response do your own thing ,yes I’m capable of that and yes do get on with things .
But oh it is so annoying.
Just saying

I really don’t understand this “wake me “ he is a adult. Why Why should you wake him. Unless he is ill I think his attitude is selfish. Surely there are jobs around the house that he could help you with. No doubt by the time he surfaces everything is done. If he wants to spend his life lying around in bed let him. I really enjoy early mornings. Birds singing. Light creeping through the window. The start of another day. We work all our lives. Please enjoy your retirement.

We get up at around 8 - 8.30 have breakfast nothing fancy, cereal etc by 9.15 OH is ready for a nap (he puts it down to his diabetes) according to him he just shuts his eyes for s few minutes. In that few minutes. I wash, dry and put away all the breakfast cups, plates etc. probably put on the washing machine and do a general tidy up. He then wakes up and says "is it that time already I must have dtopped off"
This can happen a few times during the day...he won't go to see the GP, so I just let him get on with his "snoozes"
Married almost 53 years, I've got used to his little ways by now, and just try to ignore them !!

Magnesium for jumpy legs

why does it bother you if he stays in bed till noon, does it stop you having breakfast and doing the things you want to do, i am a night owl and still up at 4am, so i stay in bed in the morning, i have done this for years, cancer and lymph node removal have left me with lymphedema so i need to go to the loo about every 30 mins during the night, my late partner never minded, he went to bed early and got up early, he would have breakfast and then go out or do what he wanted, i used to say i am sorry for sleeping in but he always said, it was better than me not being there at all, now i know what he meant as i have been on my own for 3 years. restless legs can leave you tired in the morning as your body feels like it has not had any sleep during the night, i would rather he stayed in bed for a few hours than nodding off in the chair. try and calm down about it and find something to do in the mornings.

We often sit up listening to music until 3 am or later so dont get up early.My OH is still very active ,more physically than before he retired always has a refurb on the go or working on cars etc ,so why would I bother if he likes a lie in until mid or even late morning? 14 hour days were the norm in our business so I'm happy to see him do what makes him happy,he's only got one life so let your OH live his ,his way.Or why not join him for a lie in /nothing nicer than a cosy cuddle and natter on a cold winter morning.

Lying in longer and longer is the edge of a slippery slope. Men live longer when married and part of the reason for this is that their wives monitor their health and also watch they do not fall into lazy apathy.

I’d negotiate a reasonable time and then set an alarm.

Coincidentally, both my daughter and I had serious falling out issues with our other halves over just this subject. My DH, though asked to wake me at no later than seven if I woke in the night and then nodded off again, let me oversleep though he knew the Tesco delivery was due imminently. My DD’s other half set the alarm to snooze and she overslept for work and getting the baby to nursery. In both cases we sleep because we are exhausted by having to do ninety per cent of everything that needs doing.

I can't see the issue I'm confused.
I tend to sleep in late but then quite often I am late going to bed say 2am because I am busy doing things. Hubby also gets up when he's ready to get up, it's not a problem, why would it be.
It's wonderful to lay in and get up when you are ready, that's retirement.
Why would anyone start waking someone up from sleep unless they were concerned about their health.
Trying to control another persons sleeping pattern is beyond understanding to me.
If we need to be somewhere early we set the alarm.

Oh dear Lilyflower I must do my duty as a good wife and see my husband does not slide into lazy apathy - really !

Men live longer when married and part of the reason for this is that their wives monitor their health and also watch they do not fall into lazy apathy

Right! I'll start cracking the whip tomorrow 😁

Actually, it's DH who still gets up at 6.30 am because he can't sleep on.

My husband is 68 and sleeps till about 9am. I'm up 2 hours earlier than that. I love it. I do my aerobic exercise . Go to the gym. Or drive the car to supermarket n do weekly shop and am back in time for him to help unload bags . Midday is quite late.....doesn't he get cross that half day has gone? I think if he says wake him.. then I would do so . Good luck

My partner - 72 this year - stays in bed drinking coffee and reading, or listening to LBC/watching videos. Mostly, I just leave him to it as I have better things to do. On a couple of mornings, recently, however - following an injury - I’ve stayed with him, allowing him to bring me toast and coffee. It’s great, this indolence …..especially during the super cold. The dogs agree.

Why on earth would you get up at 5am to 6am .?up to him what time he gets up in my opinion.just do your own thing .

Well, I'm a night owl and hubby is an early worm.

Married for 33 years and happy to allow the other to sleep or not sleep!

If he woke me up I'd probably divorce him. And the thought of setting an alarm amazes me!

Oh no! I mean to say he's an early bird.

We're pretty well synchronised. To bed between midnight and oneish; then I make tea between six and seven for us to have in bed before getting up. Snoozes during the day.

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Louella12

Well, I'm a night owl and hubby is an early worm.

Married for 33 years and happy to allow the other to sleep or not sleep!

If he woke me up I'd probably divorce him. And the thought of setting an alarm amazes me!

Ditto, Louella
Although DH does bring me a cuppa at about 8 am (he's often been up for two hours by then).